I need advice from parents who HAVE teens..?

I'm in a tough situation. My boyfriends parents somehow found out that we had sex and now they are forcing us to break up. I don't think that we should have to break up, I think there are other things they can do. I know they don't trust us but maybe we can figure something else out.


Please help me neither one of us want to break up and it is killing me.I need advice from parents who HAVE teens..?
How old are you both? My response would be different if you're 16 than if you're 13. I would say that at 16 or older, you should be making your own decisions about sex, but I would hope that you would be responsible enough to effectively prevent pregnancy and STD's and to have sex only within a committed relationship.





If you are younger than that, I would agree with the parents' attempts to stop you from having sex. I might be willing to allow the two of you to continue to see each other as long as you were in supervised settings and agreed not to have sex. But even then, I would worry, because I know that determined teens can find an opportunity if they really want to. I can see where his parents are coming from. They want to protect him from having to take on the responsibilities of fatherhood at a young age. I need advice from parents who HAVE teens..?
How old are you? I have a 17 year old daughter and a 19 year old son.





If you're under 16, then in most states, what you are doing is illegal, and his parents are justifiably concerned that WHEN something happens (not IF, because if you keep on the way you're going, then something is eventually going to slip), he could be held liable for statutory rape, etc., etc., as well as possibly become a teenage dad and responsible for child support for the next twenty years of his life. Parents hate to think of their sons being tied to a girl until he's almost 40!





Realistically, though, if you're over 16, there's not a whole lot they can do, short of locking him in his room, to keep him away from you. I think that it would be far more effective if they sat down with you guys aand had a very frank talk about birth control and their concerns, rather than just saying, ';You're outta here!'; If you're under 16 (or whatever the age of consent is in your state), then I'm afraid you don't have too much say in the matter.






If you are an adolescent, and your boyfriend and you are having sex, I would break you up, too, if I had the power. Having sex at your age is a ticking timebomb waiting to explode with a baby. A baby changes your entire future, and at your age, you don't want that. Don't say we're being careful, because the only ';careful enough'; is no sex at all.





Sorry, sweety. I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear.





TX Mom



I can see their point though. I have a 13 year old son who is in 8th grade and I would do the same thing.





Unless, do you think if you guys stayed together, you would stop having sex? It's too young...I don't know how old you are but even if you are 17, that's too young to be having sex and risk getting pregnant. I think his parents just want the best for their son and not to end up with any STDs or being a teenage dad.
I am a teenager and my sister is going through this too. Except she is pregnant and 15. Anyway, try to regain your parents trust. That's what my sister had to do. You should also try to reason to your parents that it was okay, you were pressured by other teens.