Teens i could really use some advice?

So i have my first boyfriend, its been almost a month, and well hes 17. We get along and everything but im dealing with depression right now and hes trying to be supportive, but i know it hurts that I don't show affection well, I haven't even kissed him or anything. I have major trust issues and I'm terrified of being hurt. One minute i want him, the next I want to be done with him.





I am so confused, please help me.





btw I'm 14, almost 15.Teens i could really use some advice?
Hahaha! I am in the exact same fix...exact same age difference too! I'm turning 15 on September 13th! I know that feeling. One minute I want him to be with me always, and hold my hand and stuff, the next I'm thinking about how gross kissing is, and how I hope he wont. It's weird, really. He just turned 17 and all, and I hate it when people are all like ';You're too young!';, because we're not! I know how you feel about not being able to make up your mind. I hate feeling indecisive, but in reality, I know I couldn't break up with him, and I'll just wait for him to leave me and move on. I hate being taken, and I love it. I love him, then I want to be away from him. I hate that sick feeling I get sometimes, when I don't get that giddy one around him. Doesn't it feel gross sometimes? Like, when I was on my period it got really hard for me, I didn't want to be anywhere near him. In the end it worked out okay...actually, I'm still confused most of the time. Tell him you want to be friends forever, if you really want out, but always think back to what you saw in him to begin with first. My issue is I have an addiction to cutting, and when I got super depressed I made little slices once, and I think he noticed, and I think he said I shouldn't do that, or maybe I was over-thinking everything and fearing he'd already noticed. I don't show affection well at all either, and my grandma and dad think there's something wrong with me, since I'm not always embracing my friends. I wonder if you and I share a complex? It's possible...Teens i could really use some advice?
Answer 1 and 3 are helping. Not 2, because just because she isn't ready for a boyfriend doesn't mean you're not. I agree with answer 1, though, why are you feeling depressed? Is it anything at all related to him. You don't have to tell us, just think it over and (as hard as it may be) remember that he may not be part of it, and that he's accepting and understanding you. Use him as an escape, maybe even a therapist. Don't be afraid to talk to him, let him know you trust him and thank him for staying by your side.
Hmm, well what I can think of is tell him that you want to take it slow. I don't even think I kissed my boyfriend after the first month. If you have a boyfriend, you two have to communicate, have trust, and be honest. If you're having trust issues, talk to him about it. That's probably the best way to go. If he loves you, he'll understand.





Btw I'm 14 turning 15 next month, and my boyfriend is 17 as well. We've been dating for a year and almost 4 months.





Good luck (:
I don't think that you really need a boyfriend right now. I am 16 years old and I don't even think that I am ready for a boyfriend. I think that you should wait especially if you are dealing with depression. I also went through depression and I don't think it helps to have boyfriend drama mixed in with that.
can you just kiss him on the cheek?





i just kiss my bf on the check for the first 3 months of dating before i felt comfortable enough to kiss him on the lips.





just be honest to him how you feel and ask him what would be the best thing to do to help him. and just keep him up to date





you should try to go to a counselor to understand more indef why plus they can help you with you bf confusion.
we can't help you if we don't know the reason of your depression





if you don't want to talk it out here, you should go to the psy of your school, a teacher you trust or a therapist





hope I helped :)





don't worry, things will eventually go back to normal
hmm just let him know that you wanna take things slow cuz your going through tough times right now but i still want to be with you and that you just want to trust him fully before doing anything