Pregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?

I'm 18 years old, married to the love of my life, my husband : D %26amp; I am 17 weeks pregnant. I did get pregnant before we got married, but the plans for the wedding were already set in place. I've graduated high school %26amp; am currently attending college. My family supports me, but my father sometimes makes snide remarks about my age. I've always been a church going girl, but I've found myself dodging church %26amp; my fellow church members because I'm worried about how they will look down on me, and my family. A lot of older people in my community already look down upon my family for allowing me to get pregnant, %26amp; me for being pregnant. Any advice? Any way to go about this, to make it a little better? I understand I put myself in this position, but it was protected, I was on birth control, and it was intentional, but at least I'm doing the right thing by owning up to it, right?


thanks.Pregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
When we go to church things do tend to get tricky, because although as Christians we say not to judge and to love each other as we love ourselves, we judge the hell out of things,





Its alot worse in churches than it is in communities.





You have to be strong in this sense, as you did nothing wrong by the bible, you know that.





There is nothing wrong with being married and pregnant, it is the union of two people coming together to pro create.





That was our original design.





The only reason people look down on young women for being pregnant is that they see them as wasting their lives, or being irresponsible.





This is something that you have to learn to deal with being a young mother, take comfort in the fact that you are happy, in love and expecting a beautiful child.





Once people see that they will learn to accept it.





What the older people seem to forget though is that in the generation or two before them it was quite common to be married and pregnant as young as 15 and 16. And one was considered an ';Old Maid'; if she reached her 20s without a husband and a child.


Be happy with what you have, pray to God.





And remember, not going to church doesnt mean that you dont love God, a Church is just a building.





Talk to your minister for guidance, he is not in a position to judge, and he wont he is a man of God.





Good LuckPregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
ok so im not a young mom or a pregnant teen, but i can understand where you are coming from. think like this: you are going to be a mom in a few months. think about that baby and how much you are going to love the baby. and if your family supports you, what does it matter to you what the other people think? they didnt influence your decision to have sex. sure you might be young, but heck, im sure you will do great. just walk around with your head up high and ignore stares. its not illegal to be pregnant at 18.
I know what you are going through. My husband is in the army and I'm currently pregnant with #1. I'm 19 years old. I stopped going to church because I have gotten too busy for it. (Sadly). I just ignore the people that don't agree with our decision. If your family supports you, like mine, then that's all that should matter. You can get through this, as will I. Good luck hun!
Do NOT let haters keep you from attending church. You still have to keep your relationship with the Lord despite how other people feel about you.





I don't understand how people could look down on you for getting pregnant. My God!! You're pregnant... Not selling drugs!





Anyways, be strong for your family and yes you are doing the right thing by owning up to your responsibilites.








Congrats and Blessings!!
Don't listen to others about being to young for marriage or a baby. Your great grandparents where probably married young. You and your husband made a choice in life and it's a good start for you guys. Continue the path and don't let other people put you down
My father does the same thing. I am 16 and have a 3 month old son. Its just the fact that his ';baby'; is having a baby. Its a fase. he'll get over it. As for the adults. They have no respect for themselves if they can't have respect for others.
They shouldn't look down on you if you were using birth control and it was protected. If you feel that way? you could try to talk to them and mayeb they will understand
Most church going people are judgmental and hypocritical. Especially baptist.
Hey,


I'm 19, married to the man I've been with for 4 years, and pregnant with our first child. And my church is excited about it! Children are such a blessing, if you are going to a church that doesn't believe that, find a new church. God says they are something to be proud of. Do I wish we had been a little older before we started a family..? Sure! But am I thrilled to have this child and so thankful for it, absolutely! You will learn as you are married a little longer that you have to set boundaries for you families. If you have somebody giving you snide remarks, you need to respectfully tell them enough is enough, tell them that it's your decision, and you're an adult. You sound like you'll make a great mom, you're already taking responsibility for your child, and that's what matters! I'm very proud of you, and I'll be praying you find a better church where people love you the way they should.
I'm 16 so its a bit harded for me.


To all those people who will or are looking down on you, can go to hell. You are probably smarter than more than half of those idiots.


I'm a junior in highschool and I have a's and b's in my classes. I'm graduating this december and immediately attending college in January. I know I'm smarter than alot of people. I answer so many questions on here lol. Your considered an adult. My dad calls me stupid and it hurts a whole lot. It hurts when people at school give me rude stares and 'whisper' stuff about me. It's really hard but I'm taking responsibility. I just ignore everyone who wants to bring me down to their level.





Also, at church its super hard. I know people there look down on me. My dad lovees church and he kept telling me what i did was a sin. I seriously want my dad to shut up about it. What happened, happened.





Good luck :]
Thats why I dont go to church. I definitely believe in God, but God teaches forgiveness and many of these so-called church-goers are the first to judge. God is everywhere. You do not need to be in church to pray or to believe. If you are happy believing on your own then skip church. If you still want to attend then go right ahead. If anyone says something then I would make it very clear that the only one judging us should be God and God forgives us for our sins. I am not a teen, but I am pregnant and 23 and I get looks from people too though I have been happily married 4 years now. Good luck hun!
IF THEY ARE ';CHURCH'; MEMBERS THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY....


YOU ARE A MARRIED ADULT...


AND HONESTLY IGNORE WHAT ANYBODY HAS TO SAY IF YOUR FAMILY SUPPORTS YOU GO TO CHURCH.. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL OUT OF PLACE... AND WHAT'S DONE IS DONE...


DON'T REGRET ANYTHING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP


ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY..


I USED TO GO EVERYWHERE AND GET STARED AT BECAUSE I WAS SOO YOUNG I DEALT WITH IT AND ALL THE RUDE REMARKS %26amp; UNTIL THIS DAY I WILL KEEP MY HEAD UP BECAUSE I SUPPORT MY KIDS..
either way you look at it people are always going to talk no matter what. even if you were older and your husband was in the marines they would comment on how you are doing it all by yourself. i give you credit for stepping up the plate and dealing with it. i was pregnant at 18 and my family took it hard because i was expected to finish college and i was the goodie too shoe of the family. but i have returned to college and my daughter is 5 now. i do not depend on my family for money or babysitting. they help here and there but not all the time. i have worked very hard so that i can be with my child and yet still provide. i only got married 2 years ago.





just dont let others remarks bother you. as long as you are taking care of yourself and your family dont shelter yourself from the world. because in the long run you wont be the talk of the town when someone else gets the spot light.





good luck. i know it is hard, but it gets easier. my husband is 14 years older than me. so imagine how much people talked about us
Oh sweetheart. I didnt get pregnant untill I was 20, and even I am still looked down upon. I never went to church or anything so I haven't had any problems as far as that goes, but girl, if you hold your head up high and be the proud woman/mother/wife that I know you are, people will let go of it. Also, a lot of it could be in your head. I think there is nothing wrong with being pregnant young. A lot of the best parents I know had their children at like 15! And I can guarantee you that a lot of the people that are looking down at you have made mistakes in there lifetime that they would rather not talk about. Not saying that you being pregnant is a mistake at all, but they may look at it as a mistake. Just embrace your pregnancy, and know that you are a beautiful intelligent and lucky young lady. Your husband is so handsome and I can tell he loves you a lot!!!! I think you're a little stressed and upset that he is gone at the moment defending our freedom. When my hubby and I are apart, I take it really hard. It's like we need our husbands there for reassurance because without them, who do we have to reassure ourselves everything is going to be ok? Just know that you are amazing girl and if you ever need anything let me know.


Love ya!


Amberly