Okay so it's called ';Radiant Eastside on a Hazy Day';. It's bout to runaways (Brendon and Audrey) who run away to New York, both for different problems and later find they need each other. (It's from different peoples prospectives) There is another character named Aiden who already lives in NY wanting to escape it and not loving he 'city'. His best friend Meisha is in lvoe with him but he isn't so sure. He thinks he's gay. The last character is Riles (Audrey's sister) who starts seaching for her sister.
So does it sound okay? I added more problems and solutions, more characters come along but they don't have their own part. Sound Good?Advice on my book. It's about runaways, troubled teens, love, etc.?
Music,
Actually it's a pretty good idea. The way you wrote out your synopsis on here is pretty well done also. However, be careful of the easy words and the Internet Language.
For instance:
You use the word 'bout' for about. You use the word 'to' for two runaways, and the word love is incorrect with 'lvoe.'
Commas should be used here and there, but editing by someone who reads your story would fix those if they did it honestly.
Don't get hung up on that 'chat room' lingo. Spell your words out, Music. The last thing you want is a literary agent looking at the three chapters you send him/her and seeing those silly misspelled words. You'd be cutting your own throat.
Good luck!
PJ MAdvice on my book. It's about runaways, troubled teens, love, etc.?
i guess people would read that.
mmm.... it might be good with some good writing :P
you could get lots of good ideas fron that show on the N. its called Degrasi.
--禄 It seems kind of confusing. Whose point of view is it going to be told from?
if your a good writer, than it would be good. I really like the title.
If your a crappy writer, or just an okay one, you wont be able to pull it off.
Once again, kudos on the title. It's amazing.
it sound good but it seams that there is to much going on at once but it really does sound good.
Sounds pretty good. Maybe I'll buy it if it's published. :)
for me it sounds interesting let me know when u publish it cuz i will buy it for sure
It sounds ok, but maybe a little more focus on one set of the characters, it might confuse people having two story plots going on, the second one could be like a sequel. That would be cool. The the third book could be like how it all comes together!
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Does anyone know of any free online advice teen chats?
www.dmlive.com
stands for Dawson McAllister.
click on the ';hopeline'; and they will talk to you. (if you on, on sunday night you wont get much attention. but every other night is good.)
the hopeline only works in the evening.
its a Christian website (but they aren't forcing)
and they will talk to you about your issues.
its for 25 years old and under.Does anyone know of any free online advice teen chats?
here.. just post what you need advise on.. i get that on here alot.. heheDoes anyone know of any free online advice teen chats?
IMVU
stands for Dawson McAllister.
click on the ';hopeline'; and they will talk to you. (if you on, on sunday night you wont get much attention. but every other night is good.)
the hopeline only works in the evening.
its a Christian website (but they aren't forcing)
and they will talk to you about your issues.
its for 25 years old and under.Does anyone know of any free online advice teen chats?
here.. just post what you need advise on.. i get that on here alot.. heheDoes anyone know of any free online advice teen chats?
IMVU
What is a good teen advice website?
for a teen who needs advice about friends, love, and dating?What is a good teen advice website?
awww that is what we r for
friends: pple u can tell anything 2 and wont judge u!!!!
awww that is what we r for
friends: pple u can tell anything 2 and wont judge u!!!!
Teen advice chatroom? please read 10 points to anyone that finds one?
im looking for a chat room for support... advice... anything. i have an eating disorder and i have been looking for an eating disorder chat room but i cant find one... so please list links for teen advice chat rooms thanksTeen advice chatroom? please read 10 points to anyone that finds one?
I don't know if these chat rooms are any good. I put in teen chat and eating disorder chat and teen eating disorder chat into search, so here are quite a few choices to check out:
http://teenadvice.about.com/mpchat.htm
http://www.teenspot.com/chat/
http://www.student.com/chat.php
http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/4220/鈥?/a>
http://www.pale-reflections.com/
A page that has several different chat room site choices on it:
http://mentalhealth.about.com/cs/chatroo鈥?/a>
I don't know if these chat rooms are any good. I put in teen chat and eating disorder chat and teen eating disorder chat into search, so here are quite a few choices to check out:
http://teenadvice.about.com/mpchat.htm
http://www.teenspot.com/chat/
http://www.student.com/chat.php
http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/4220/鈥?/a>
http://www.pale-reflections.com/
A page that has several different chat room site choices on it:
http://mentalhealth.about.com/cs/chatroo鈥?/a>
Any gay,bi,teens or men out there that can help me on some advice really bad !?!?
hi im 16 and im also bi, i feel reall confused on my sexuality but need help, if ur a teen or gay fellow, try sharing or sparing thoughts that will help me at my young age, tell me things that will benefit me that u neva new wen u were 16 im sick of hiding i jus wanna b me!Any gay,bi,teens or men out there that can help me on some advice really bad !?!?
There is more to life than sex, you were meant for more.
http://www.meant4more.com/Any gay,bi,teens or men out there that can help me on some advice really bad !?!?
You can be attracted to both men and women. Just be yourself.
I think the thing that I needed to know the most at 16 is: You are the same person today that you were yesterday, that you were five years ago, that you were ten years ago.
In other words, your orientation is not a moral issue. Your character is defined by whether you're honest, trustworthy, loving - all the things you can do something about. Orientation is out of your control.
You may already realize this on one level, but it needs to sink in deep that it is just part of you, like your hair color, or your height.
There are loads of other things to know, but this one to me was the biggie.
no one can really give you the answer cause no matter what someone is going to judge you so you either come out or stay in. either way you will be judged so why not be judge for who you really are. hope i helped some
I know how hard it is to be 16 and feeling alone.
The following I never knew when I was a teen and wished I had.
First off, you are still in puberty. At this stage of your life sexuality is very confusing, and hard to deal with, especially if you know you are bi/gay and it is not just being curious.
Do you have a close friend and confidant you trust enough to confide in? If you do then that is the first step. You will have someone to confide in. Is there a youth counselling agency in your area where you can talk to someone? If so, they will give you support and may have addresses of a gay teen advocacy (maybe even in your school or neighbourhood) where you can share your fears, confusion and dreams and maybe meet someone of the same likes. Do you have a close friend that you've been intimate with and is bi?
I was fortunate enough when I was 14 to meet a pal who lived across the street and attended my juniour high, who happened to be bi. We had each other to lean on.
Also, being bi/gay is on a need to know basis. Who really needs to know? Or at least until you are sure and in a meaningful relationship.
The following may aslo help:
When I attended university part of my curriculum was psychology and Core Humanities; part of the term both dealt with Human Sexuality.
Leading researcher in different countries over many years compiled the following data:
1 out of 10 humans is bi/gay.
75% of males (can't remember stats for females) have had 1 or more same sex relations in their life (age when experimented were: boys, tweens, teens, young adults, adults and old men. Some men that experimented more than once had done so at different intervals of their lives) most married and had kids.
These figures were based on a true/false scale of 15% ratio.
Aslo, being bi/gay is not a choice, birth defect, illness, disease (mental or otherwise), anyone's fault or a sin.
Humans are born the way they are; every human has the right to love and be loved no matter what gender they happen to be involved with.
Good luck and please don't panic yet. You are still young and have a life ahead of you to be happy.
well if your bi then that is cool i understand what you are going though I'm bi by the way
Being bi is actually normal! Everyone is born bi and it is through our life experience and society that make us who we are. If you are attracted to both genders that is awesome...more people for you to love! At 16 it is hard to be anything (gay, straight, bi). Society (whether people admit it or not) puts a lot of pressure on young people to have the ideal life of being straight. You know the ';cookie cutter life'; of a wife, husband, 2.5 kids, a dog, cat and a white picket fence.
As a gay girl who grew up in a small town and watched a few friends come out in high school I saw the struggles they went through by not having a good support system, but in the long run they were happier because they came out. I didn't come out in high school, I waited until college because I didn't feel ready in high school. My advice is to enjoy high school by being you, if that means to come out as bi then do it. High school it about making memories and having fun and college is about finding yourself. Feeling bi is normal don't be scared to be who you are and do not feel pressured to be with someone you don't really want to be with.
Hope this helps.
Talk to some of the teens on http://www.TeenPhrase.com Lots of good advice from lots of other teens.
My advice is make up your mind......Bi is just being greedy.
There is more to life than sex, you were meant for more.
http://www.meant4more.com/Any gay,bi,teens or men out there that can help me on some advice really bad !?!?
You can be attracted to both men and women. Just be yourself.
I think the thing that I needed to know the most at 16 is: You are the same person today that you were yesterday, that you were five years ago, that you were ten years ago.
In other words, your orientation is not a moral issue. Your character is defined by whether you're honest, trustworthy, loving - all the things you can do something about. Orientation is out of your control.
You may already realize this on one level, but it needs to sink in deep that it is just part of you, like your hair color, or your height.
There are loads of other things to know, but this one to me was the biggie.
no one can really give you the answer cause no matter what someone is going to judge you so you either come out or stay in. either way you will be judged so why not be judge for who you really are. hope i helped some
I know how hard it is to be 16 and feeling alone.
The following I never knew when I was a teen and wished I had.
First off, you are still in puberty. At this stage of your life sexuality is very confusing, and hard to deal with, especially if you know you are bi/gay and it is not just being curious.
Do you have a close friend and confidant you trust enough to confide in? If you do then that is the first step. You will have someone to confide in. Is there a youth counselling agency in your area where you can talk to someone? If so, they will give you support and may have addresses of a gay teen advocacy (maybe even in your school or neighbourhood) where you can share your fears, confusion and dreams and maybe meet someone of the same likes. Do you have a close friend that you've been intimate with and is bi?
I was fortunate enough when I was 14 to meet a pal who lived across the street and attended my juniour high, who happened to be bi. We had each other to lean on.
Also, being bi/gay is on a need to know basis. Who really needs to know? Or at least until you are sure and in a meaningful relationship.
The following may aslo help:
When I attended university part of my curriculum was psychology and Core Humanities; part of the term both dealt with Human Sexuality.
Leading researcher in different countries over many years compiled the following data:
1 out of 10 humans is bi/gay.
75% of males (can't remember stats for females) have had 1 or more same sex relations in their life (age when experimented were: boys, tweens, teens, young adults, adults and old men. Some men that experimented more than once had done so at different intervals of their lives) most married and had kids.
These figures were based on a true/false scale of 15% ratio.
Aslo, being bi/gay is not a choice, birth defect, illness, disease (mental or otherwise), anyone's fault or a sin.
Humans are born the way they are; every human has the right to love and be loved no matter what gender they happen to be involved with.
Good luck and please don't panic yet. You are still young and have a life ahead of you to be happy.
well if your bi then that is cool i understand what you are going though I'm bi by the way
Being bi is actually normal! Everyone is born bi and it is through our life experience and society that make us who we are. If you are attracted to both genders that is awesome...more people for you to love! At 16 it is hard to be anything (gay, straight, bi). Society (whether people admit it or not) puts a lot of pressure on young people to have the ideal life of being straight. You know the ';cookie cutter life'; of a wife, husband, 2.5 kids, a dog, cat and a white picket fence.
As a gay girl who grew up in a small town and watched a few friends come out in high school I saw the struggles they went through by not having a good support system, but in the long run they were happier because they came out. I didn't come out in high school, I waited until college because I didn't feel ready in high school. My advice is to enjoy high school by being you, if that means to come out as bi then do it. High school it about making memories and having fun and college is about finding yourself. Feeling bi is normal don't be scared to be who you are and do not feel pressured to be with someone you don't really want to be with.
Hope this helps.
Talk to some of the teens on http://www.TeenPhrase.com Lots of good advice from lots of other teens.
My advice is make up your mind......Bi is just being greedy.
What should my grandparents do about my cousin? (adult and teen advice accepted)?
My cousin just turned 17, my grandparents have raised her since she was 6. (both parents have drug problems) She does that ';cutting'; stuff, she's been drinking a bottle of niquil a day, and takes about 10 of those BC powder things. (these are things they've just found out)
Along with those she smokes cigarettes, used to (or still might) smoke pot and drink.
She's supposed to have 20 credits in school, but because of classes she's failed she only has 10!
What can they do about her? Grounding doesn't work, they've tried medications but she won't take them. Our family is really confused right now and could use some outside advice.What should my grandparents do about my cousin? (adult and teen advice accepted)?
Your grandparents have done what they can with her.Now it is time for them to get some outside help.She may need to be put in some sort of a rehab.At the very least she need's counseling.You can't force anyone to change they have to want to change all you can do is try and lead her in the right direction.She is alomost 18 your grandparents may have to resort to using tough-love which means they don't help her with anything and let her hit rock bottom.If that does'nt make her want to change nothing will unfortunately.Good Luck.What should my grandparents do about my cousin? (adult and teen advice accepted)?
I would suggest to them to try and get her in some form of counseling. She has some serious issues and if not addressed will follow her long into adulthood.
Clearly your cousin is well on the road to self-destruction and needs rehab/medical intervention. Contact your family doctor, pastor, or local hospital for assistance in getting the rehab process started. Your county child/family services department may also be able to assist since she is a minor. This is the time for some tough love.
It sounds as if she has a low self esteem. I would recommend professional counseling for her and the entire family. This is not your grandparents fault but she has to take responsibility for her own actions. She was basically abandoned by her parents and this may be the cause for some of this behavior.wrinkles
Along with those she smokes cigarettes, used to (or still might) smoke pot and drink.
She's supposed to have 20 credits in school, but because of classes she's failed she only has 10!
What can they do about her? Grounding doesn't work, they've tried medications but she won't take them. Our family is really confused right now and could use some outside advice.What should my grandparents do about my cousin? (adult and teen advice accepted)?
Your grandparents have done what they can with her.Now it is time for them to get some outside help.She may need to be put in some sort of a rehab.At the very least she need's counseling.You can't force anyone to change they have to want to change all you can do is try and lead her in the right direction.She is alomost 18 your grandparents may have to resort to using tough-love which means they don't help her with anything and let her hit rock bottom.If that does'nt make her want to change nothing will unfortunately.Good Luck.What should my grandparents do about my cousin? (adult and teen advice accepted)?
I would suggest to them to try and get her in some form of counseling. She has some serious issues and if not addressed will follow her long into adulthood.
Clearly your cousin is well on the road to self-destruction and needs rehab/medical intervention. Contact your family doctor, pastor, or local hospital for assistance in getting the rehab process started. Your county child/family services department may also be able to assist since she is a minor. This is the time for some tough love.
It sounds as if she has a low self esteem. I would recommend professional counseling for her and the entire family. This is not your grandparents fault but she has to take responsibility for her own actions. She was basically abandoned by her parents and this may be the cause for some of this behavior.
Advice on starting a teen dance club?
I was thinking of openning a teen dance clue in my town. It would be open from 7-midnight on Fridays and Saturdays. It would have a room for dancing, a bar (no alchohal), and a seperate room with computers (with filters of course) and couches and tables. It would be open for teens ages 14-18.
Does anyone have any advice on how to start? Do I need insurense?Advice on starting a teen dance club?
You sure will need insurance. You will need a rather large amount of money or be able to borrow a lot to get things going. The location is important. Can't have it where adult business are near.
Should have it open much more than two nights per week. Not very likely to be able to pay the bills that way. Open it after school until seven in the evening during the week and offer study area where students can help each other.
You most likely will need to get the proper licenses and permits to do this. You will have to have adults to oversee the place at all times there are teens in it.
Much more involved when it comes to dealing with under age people.Advice on starting a teen dance club?
Do you have a location? In high school, my friends and I were fortunate enough to find an opportunity at a venue that supplied stereo/dj equip/lights/sound/smoke/dancefloor, tables and chairs, vending machines, and a pizza shop across the street. We just had to work there and advertise.
Underage clubs are not very common, partly because all that stuff is expensive and there is no revenue from alcohol. You might consider just getting together at somebody's house. A lot of bowling alleys have laser bowling with music and a club-like feel and a lot of live music performances are all ages.
If you do start a club and you want to generate a large audience, you'll have to really promote it, preferably before you open. To reach 14-18 year olds, you can probably advertise at (your) high school (word-of-mouth, bulletin boards?/hallways, morning news? daily bulletin? newspaper?) as well as online at social networking sites, maybe the mall or at school sporting events, and at other schools. Be creative. Good luck. It should be fun and a good learning experience.
Does anyone have any advice on how to start? Do I need insurense?Advice on starting a teen dance club?
You sure will need insurance. You will need a rather large amount of money or be able to borrow a lot to get things going. The location is important. Can't have it where adult business are near.
Should have it open much more than two nights per week. Not very likely to be able to pay the bills that way. Open it after school until seven in the evening during the week and offer study area where students can help each other.
You most likely will need to get the proper licenses and permits to do this. You will have to have adults to oversee the place at all times there are teens in it.
Much more involved when it comes to dealing with under age people.Advice on starting a teen dance club?
Do you have a location? In high school, my friends and I were fortunate enough to find an opportunity at a venue that supplied stereo/dj equip/lights/sound/smoke/dancefloor, tables and chairs, vending machines, and a pizza shop across the street. We just had to work there and advertise.
Underage clubs are not very common, partly because all that stuff is expensive and there is no revenue from alcohol. You might consider just getting together at somebody's house. A lot of bowling alleys have laser bowling with music and a club-like feel and a lot of live music performances are all ages.
If you do start a club and you want to generate a large audience, you'll have to really promote it, preferably before you open. To reach 14-18 year olds, you can probably advertise at (your) high school (word-of-mouth, bulletin boards?/hallways, morning news? daily bulletin? newspaper?) as well as online at social networking sites, maybe the mall or at school sporting events, and at other schools. Be creative. Good luck. It should be fun and a good learning experience.
Pregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
I'm 18 years old, married to the love of my life, my husband : D %26amp; I am 17 weeks pregnant. I did get pregnant before we got married, but the plans for the wedding were already set in place. I've graduated high school %26amp; am currently attending college. My family supports me, but my father sometimes makes snide remarks about my age. I've always been a church going girl, but I've found myself dodging church %26amp; my fellow church members because I'm worried about how they will look down on me, and my family. A lot of older people in my community already look down upon my family for allowing me to get pregnant, %26amp; me for being pregnant. Any advice? Any way to go about this, to make it a little better? I understand I put myself in this position, but it was protected, I was on birth control, and it was intentional, but at least I'm doing the right thing by owning up to it, right?
thanks.Pregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
When we go to church things do tend to get tricky, because although as Christians we say not to judge and to love each other as we love ourselves, we judge the hell out of things,
Its alot worse in churches than it is in communities.
You have to be strong in this sense, as you did nothing wrong by the bible, you know that.
There is nothing wrong with being married and pregnant, it is the union of two people coming together to pro create.
That was our original design.
The only reason people look down on young women for being pregnant is that they see them as wasting their lives, or being irresponsible.
This is something that you have to learn to deal with being a young mother, take comfort in the fact that you are happy, in love and expecting a beautiful child.
Once people see that they will learn to accept it.
What the older people seem to forget though is that in the generation or two before them it was quite common to be married and pregnant as young as 15 and 16. And one was considered an ';Old Maid'; if she reached her 20s without a husband and a child.
Be happy with what you have, pray to God.
And remember, not going to church doesnt mean that you dont love God, a Church is just a building.
Talk to your minister for guidance, he is not in a position to judge, and he wont he is a man of God.
Good LuckPregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
ok so im not a young mom or a pregnant teen, but i can understand where you are coming from. think like this: you are going to be a mom in a few months. think about that baby and how much you are going to love the baby. and if your family supports you, what does it matter to you what the other people think? they didnt influence your decision to have sex. sure you might be young, but heck, im sure you will do great. just walk around with your head up high and ignore stares. its not illegal to be pregnant at 18.
I know what you are going through. My husband is in the army and I'm currently pregnant with #1. I'm 19 years old. I stopped going to church because I have gotten too busy for it. (Sadly). I just ignore the people that don't agree with our decision. If your family supports you, like mine, then that's all that should matter. You can get through this, as will I. Good luck hun!
Do NOT let haters keep you from attending church. You still have to keep your relationship with the Lord despite how other people feel about you.
I don't understand how people could look down on you for getting pregnant. My God!! You're pregnant... Not selling drugs!
Anyways, be strong for your family and yes you are doing the right thing by owning up to your responsibilites.
Congrats and Blessings!!
Don't listen to others about being to young for marriage or a baby. Your great grandparents where probably married young. You and your husband made a choice in life and it's a good start for you guys. Continue the path and don't let other people put you down
My father does the same thing. I am 16 and have a 3 month old son. Its just the fact that his ';baby'; is having a baby. Its a fase. he'll get over it. As for the adults. They have no respect for themselves if they can't have respect for others.
They shouldn't look down on you if you were using birth control and it was protected. If you feel that way? you could try to talk to them and mayeb they will understand
Most church going people are judgmental and hypocritical. Especially baptist.
Hey,
I'm 19, married to the man I've been with for 4 years, and pregnant with our first child. And my church is excited about it! Children are such a blessing, if you are going to a church that doesn't believe that, find a new church. God says they are something to be proud of. Do I wish we had been a little older before we started a family..? Sure! But am I thrilled to have this child and so thankful for it, absolutely! You will learn as you are married a little longer that you have to set boundaries for you families. If you have somebody giving you snide remarks, you need to respectfully tell them enough is enough, tell them that it's your decision, and you're an adult. You sound like you'll make a great mom, you're already taking responsibility for your child, and that's what matters! I'm very proud of you, and I'll be praying you find a better church where people love you the way they should.
I'm 16 so its a bit harded for me.
To all those people who will or are looking down on you, can go to hell. You are probably smarter than more than half of those idiots.
I'm a junior in highschool and I have a's and b's in my classes. I'm graduating this december and immediately attending college in January. I know I'm smarter than alot of people. I answer so many questions on here lol. Your considered an adult. My dad calls me stupid and it hurts a whole lot. It hurts when people at school give me rude stares and 'whisper' stuff about me. It's really hard but I'm taking responsibility. I just ignore everyone who wants to bring me down to their level.
Also, at church its super hard. I know people there look down on me. My dad lovees church and he kept telling me what i did was a sin. I seriously want my dad to shut up about it. What happened, happened.
Good luck :]
Thats why I dont go to church. I definitely believe in God, but God teaches forgiveness and many of these so-called church-goers are the first to judge. God is everywhere. You do not need to be in church to pray or to believe. If you are happy believing on your own then skip church. If you still want to attend then go right ahead. If anyone says something then I would make it very clear that the only one judging us should be God and God forgives us for our sins. I am not a teen, but I am pregnant and 23 and I get looks from people too though I have been happily married 4 years now. Good luck hun!
IF THEY ARE ';CHURCH'; MEMBERS THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY....
YOU ARE A MARRIED ADULT...
AND HONESTLY IGNORE WHAT ANYBODY HAS TO SAY IF YOUR FAMILY SUPPORTS YOU GO TO CHURCH.. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL OUT OF PLACE... AND WHAT'S DONE IS DONE...
DON'T REGRET ANYTHING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP
ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY..
I USED TO GO EVERYWHERE AND GET STARED AT BECAUSE I WAS SOO YOUNG I DEALT WITH IT AND ALL THE RUDE REMARKS %26amp; UNTIL THIS DAY I WILL KEEP MY HEAD UP BECAUSE I SUPPORT MY KIDS..
either way you look at it people are always going to talk no matter what. even if you were older and your husband was in the marines they would comment on how you are doing it all by yourself. i give you credit for stepping up the plate and dealing with it. i was pregnant at 18 and my family took it hard because i was expected to finish college and i was the goodie too shoe of the family. but i have returned to college and my daughter is 5 now. i do not depend on my family for money or babysitting. they help here and there but not all the time. i have worked very hard so that i can be with my child and yet still provide. i only got married 2 years ago.
just dont let others remarks bother you. as long as you are taking care of yourself and your family dont shelter yourself from the world. because in the long run you wont be the talk of the town when someone else gets the spot light.
good luck. i know it is hard, but it gets easier. my husband is 14 years older than me. so imagine how much people talked about us
Oh sweetheart. I didnt get pregnant untill I was 20, and even I am still looked down upon. I never went to church or anything so I haven't had any problems as far as that goes, but girl, if you hold your head up high and be the proud woman/mother/wife that I know you are, people will let go of it. Also, a lot of it could be in your head. I think there is nothing wrong with being pregnant young. A lot of the best parents I know had their children at like 15! And I can guarantee you that a lot of the people that are looking down at you have made mistakes in there lifetime that they would rather not talk about. Not saying that you being pregnant is a mistake at all, but they may look at it as a mistake. Just embrace your pregnancy, and know that you are a beautiful intelligent and lucky young lady. Your husband is so handsome and I can tell he loves you a lot!!!! I think you're a little stressed and upset that he is gone at the moment defending our freedom. When my hubby and I are apart, I take it really hard. It's like we need our husbands there for reassurance because without them, who do we have to reassure ourselves everything is going to be ok? Just know that you are amazing girl and if you ever need anything let me know.
Love ya!
Amberly
thanks.Pregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
When we go to church things do tend to get tricky, because although as Christians we say not to judge and to love each other as we love ourselves, we judge the hell out of things,
Its alot worse in churches than it is in communities.
You have to be strong in this sense, as you did nothing wrong by the bible, you know that.
There is nothing wrong with being married and pregnant, it is the union of two people coming together to pro create.
That was our original design.
The only reason people look down on young women for being pregnant is that they see them as wasting their lives, or being irresponsible.
This is something that you have to learn to deal with being a young mother, take comfort in the fact that you are happy, in love and expecting a beautiful child.
Once people see that they will learn to accept it.
What the older people seem to forget though is that in the generation or two before them it was quite common to be married and pregnant as young as 15 and 16. And one was considered an ';Old Maid'; if she reached her 20s without a husband and a child.
Be happy with what you have, pray to God.
And remember, not going to church doesnt mean that you dont love God, a Church is just a building.
Talk to your minister for guidance, he is not in a position to judge, and he wont he is a man of God.
Good LuckPregnant teens or young mothers, can I have a little advice?
ok so im not a young mom or a pregnant teen, but i can understand where you are coming from. think like this: you are going to be a mom in a few months. think about that baby and how much you are going to love the baby. and if your family supports you, what does it matter to you what the other people think? they didnt influence your decision to have sex. sure you might be young, but heck, im sure you will do great. just walk around with your head up high and ignore stares. its not illegal to be pregnant at 18.
I know what you are going through. My husband is in the army and I'm currently pregnant with #1. I'm 19 years old. I stopped going to church because I have gotten too busy for it. (Sadly). I just ignore the people that don't agree with our decision. If your family supports you, like mine, then that's all that should matter. You can get through this, as will I. Good luck hun!
Do NOT let haters keep you from attending church. You still have to keep your relationship with the Lord despite how other people feel about you.
I don't understand how people could look down on you for getting pregnant. My God!! You're pregnant... Not selling drugs!
Anyways, be strong for your family and yes you are doing the right thing by owning up to your responsibilites.
Congrats and Blessings!!
Don't listen to others about being to young for marriage or a baby. Your great grandparents where probably married young. You and your husband made a choice in life and it's a good start for you guys. Continue the path and don't let other people put you down
My father does the same thing. I am 16 and have a 3 month old son. Its just the fact that his ';baby'; is having a baby. Its a fase. he'll get over it. As for the adults. They have no respect for themselves if they can't have respect for others.
They shouldn't look down on you if you were using birth control and it was protected. If you feel that way? you could try to talk to them and mayeb they will understand
Most church going people are judgmental and hypocritical. Especially baptist.
Hey,
I'm 19, married to the man I've been with for 4 years, and pregnant with our first child. And my church is excited about it! Children are such a blessing, if you are going to a church that doesn't believe that, find a new church. God says they are something to be proud of. Do I wish we had been a little older before we started a family..? Sure! But am I thrilled to have this child and so thankful for it, absolutely! You will learn as you are married a little longer that you have to set boundaries for you families. If you have somebody giving you snide remarks, you need to respectfully tell them enough is enough, tell them that it's your decision, and you're an adult. You sound like you'll make a great mom, you're already taking responsibility for your child, and that's what matters! I'm very proud of you, and I'll be praying you find a better church where people love you the way they should.
I'm 16 so its a bit harded for me.
To all those people who will or are looking down on you, can go to hell. You are probably smarter than more than half of those idiots.
I'm a junior in highschool and I have a's and b's in my classes. I'm graduating this december and immediately attending college in January. I know I'm smarter than alot of people. I answer so many questions on here lol. Your considered an adult. My dad calls me stupid and it hurts a whole lot. It hurts when people at school give me rude stares and 'whisper' stuff about me. It's really hard but I'm taking responsibility. I just ignore everyone who wants to bring me down to their level.
Also, at church its super hard. I know people there look down on me. My dad lovees church and he kept telling me what i did was a sin. I seriously want my dad to shut up about it. What happened, happened.
Good luck :]
Thats why I dont go to church. I definitely believe in God, but God teaches forgiveness and many of these so-called church-goers are the first to judge. God is everywhere. You do not need to be in church to pray or to believe. If you are happy believing on your own then skip church. If you still want to attend then go right ahead. If anyone says something then I would make it very clear that the only one judging us should be God and God forgives us for our sins. I am not a teen, but I am pregnant and 23 and I get looks from people too though I have been happily married 4 years now. Good luck hun!
IF THEY ARE ';CHURCH'; MEMBERS THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY....
YOU ARE A MARRIED ADULT...
AND HONESTLY IGNORE WHAT ANYBODY HAS TO SAY IF YOUR FAMILY SUPPORTS YOU GO TO CHURCH.. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL OUT OF PLACE... AND WHAT'S DONE IS DONE...
DON'T REGRET ANYTHING AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP
ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY..
I USED TO GO EVERYWHERE AND GET STARED AT BECAUSE I WAS SOO YOUNG I DEALT WITH IT AND ALL THE RUDE REMARKS %26amp; UNTIL THIS DAY I WILL KEEP MY HEAD UP BECAUSE I SUPPORT MY KIDS..
either way you look at it people are always going to talk no matter what. even if you were older and your husband was in the marines they would comment on how you are doing it all by yourself. i give you credit for stepping up the plate and dealing with it. i was pregnant at 18 and my family took it hard because i was expected to finish college and i was the goodie too shoe of the family. but i have returned to college and my daughter is 5 now. i do not depend on my family for money or babysitting. they help here and there but not all the time. i have worked very hard so that i can be with my child and yet still provide. i only got married 2 years ago.
just dont let others remarks bother you. as long as you are taking care of yourself and your family dont shelter yourself from the world. because in the long run you wont be the talk of the town when someone else gets the spot light.
good luck. i know it is hard, but it gets easier. my husband is 14 years older than me. so imagine how much people talked about us
Oh sweetheart. I didnt get pregnant untill I was 20, and even I am still looked down upon. I never went to church or anything so I haven't had any problems as far as that goes, but girl, if you hold your head up high and be the proud woman/mother/wife that I know you are, people will let go of it. Also, a lot of it could be in your head. I think there is nothing wrong with being pregnant young. A lot of the best parents I know had their children at like 15! And I can guarantee you that a lot of the people that are looking down at you have made mistakes in there lifetime that they would rather not talk about. Not saying that you being pregnant is a mistake at all, but they may look at it as a mistake. Just embrace your pregnancy, and know that you are a beautiful intelligent and lucky young lady. Your husband is so handsome and I can tell he loves you a lot!!!! I think you're a little stressed and upset that he is gone at the moment defending our freedom. When my hubby and I are apart, I take it really hard. It's like we need our husbands there for reassurance because without them, who do we have to reassure ourselves everything is going to be ok? Just know that you are amazing girl and if you ever need anything let me know.
Love ya!
Amberly
Teen needs to lose weight. Any advice? How long should it take?
I am a 5'6'; 16 year old girl who weighs 250 and wears a size 20. I have started eating less and cutting out foods, and attempted to run1.6 miles--I can only do it if I stop to walk a lot. How long should this take. I'm going to college next fall--is it possible to lose 100 pounds by then? More? Thanks for your help!Teen needs to lose weight. Any advice? How long should it take?
Congrats! You are taking some great steps! Being active is important- try taking a dance class or something like spinning-it will build muscle and endurance. Walking is okay. Any movement helps.
Look at your diet: What are you cutting out? Sodas, snacks, and sugars? good. Entire food groups? BAD. Ask your doctor to recommend a nutritionist, so you can work together to plan something that is right for you.
100 pounds in a year? I don't think so, but you will be healthier and more active. After you form good life habits, you'll be the one losing weight (instead of gaining) in college!
good luck!Teen needs to lose weight. Any advice? How long should it take?
I gotta give thumbs down for that...I had EASILY the best answer, and yet didnt get it. What a waste of friggin time. Way to keep it real
You need to go to weightwatchers and you do not have to give up any kind of food. My daughter is 17 and is on weight watchers. I am also on w.w. I did not have a lot to lose but have lost 17 lbs. since
Feb.1. My friend has lost 40lbs. since that date.She weighed 225 lbs. It is best to lose it the healthy way and not to deprive yourself of any food, just counting points is great. Please try it and if possible with a friend. Good luck and don't try to take it off fast as it will come back on again. My daughter has been on this diet for about 5 weeks and lost 10 lbs. and she loves it.
Join a kickboxing gym. U will loose all the weight u want and more.
Aim for 1 pound per week to lose. By the end of your first semester, you should be down 50-100 pounds.
Cardio, cardio, cardio. This helps you with the simple philosophy behind fat loss: Burn more calories than you take in. If your goal is fat loss, incorporate 4–6, 30–60-minute sessions per week into your training schedule.
Of iron and sweat. If your goal is to lean out, follow your weight training with cardio. Since lifting depletes glycogen stores, your body is more likely to use fat as its first fuel source during cardio. Also, the combination of the two results in a higher caloric burn postworkout.
Tread heavily. What’s the best exercise and intensity to burn maximal fat? Researchers found that jogging on the treadmill at about 70% of your maximal heart rate, or MHR (subtract your age from 220 and multiply by 0.7 for your heart rate in beats per minute), was optimal, burning about 40 grams of fat per hour of exercise. Going above or below this intensity burned significantly less fat, as did pedaling on a stationary cycle, regardless of intensity.
Run hungry. If you can stomach getting up earlier, perform cardio before your first meal of the day. Your body is most likely to use fat as the first energy source because your glycogen stores are depleted. If you’re concerned with muscle loss, take 10–20 grams of whey protein before your session, but stay away from carbs.
Post-cardio burn. Following aerobic exercise, your resting metabolic rate remains elevated for anywhere from 60 minutes to about 12 hours, depending on the intensity and duration of the exercise session.
Move outdoors. Try your next outdoor run on sand, which is more difficult than running on harder surfaces like cement. It’s easier on the joints as well, but wear shoes to avoid stress fractures and protect your feet from glass. Running on grass is also a welcome relief to joints and arches.
Taper off. Instead of starting slow and building up speed, do your high-intensity cardio early in your workout and taper off to a slow finish to burn significantly more fat. After a 2–3-minute warm-up, immediately kick it into high gear (80%–85% max heart rate) for 15–20 minutes before slowing down (60%–65% max heart rate) for the last 10–20 minutes.
Vary your cardio. Whether you’re lifting weights or doing cardio, the trick is to keep your body from adapting to what you’re doing. Regularly changing your cardio mode is the best way to keep your body responding to your efforts.
Interval for success. Unless you’re a highly conditioned athlete, you can’t maintain a very intense pace for very long, so the best way to improve your aerobic fitness and burn fat is with intervals. That is, you alternate very intense periods of work with lower-intensity sessions in which you recover.
No butts. Smoking deprives cells of the oxygen they need to maximize metabolism, keeps muscles from repairing themselves after exercise and makes cardio a lot tougher. Plus, your smoke-scented clothes are sure to irritate fellow gym rats.
Fidget to fight fat. Are you a fidgeter? Maybe you should be. Several studies have shown that toe-tappers, while completely annoying at the office, will burn more calories over the course of the day than the stationary man.
NUTRITION
Stay hydrated. Active individuals actually require more water and should aim to consume roughly 1 gallon per day to avoid becoming dehydrated. And if you’re one of those people who hates drinking water, consider this: Dehydrated individuals burn less fat than their well-watered counterparts.
Eat more frequently. Eating 5–6 small meals a day as opposed to “three squares a day” causes your metabolism to work constantly. Eating larger meals, on the other hand, slows your metabolism and forces leftover calories to be stored as fat.
Eat protein. Since muscle-building is the fastest route to slim down, you want to make sure that your protein consumption is enough to keep up with your weight training. Eat too little protein and your gains could be much slower. Get 1–1.5 grams of protein per pound of bodyweight per day to help your muscle gains along. Use protein bars and shakes to supplement your whole-food consumption and stave off cravings.
Get leafy. Those who eat a salad before dinner tend to consume less calories overall during dinner. But don’t sabotage yourself — stay away from high-fat dressings like ranch, blue cheese and Caesar.
Skip happy hour. Alcohol consumption can temporarily blunt testosterone levels, hindering muscle repair and growth and blunting sexual drive. Also, the calories from alcoholic beverages — in the neighborhood of 100–200 each without cocktail mixers — add up faster than you may think.
Cut out soda. Instead, rely on water and other flavored drinks like Crystal Light to get your fluids every day. If you drink one soda per day, you’re adding 1,750 calories per week to your diet. Also, studies have shown that those who regularly consume diet sodas tend to gain weight in the long run because of overindulgences elsewhere.
Calories out! The goal in any fat-loss or weight-loss program should be to burn more calories than you consume. Aim to cut total calorie consumption by about 250 calories per day. Yes, that means you’ll have to figure out how many calories you eat in a normal day. Get on it. The math will pay big dividends later.
Got the munchies? If you can do without the butter and salt, plain popcorn is a winner. Two quarts has the same number of calories as just 20 potato chips. By substituting 1 cup of plain, unbuttered popcorn for a 1-ounce bag of chips, you’ll save 135 calories and 10 grams of fat.
The magical fruit. Subjects who ate half of a grapefruit with meals or drank 8 ounces of grapefruit juice three times a day lost 4 pounds (with some losing more than 10 pounds) in 12 weeks without dieting.
Carb smart. Keep your carbohydrates low to moderate when trying to lose weight. If you rotate low- and high-carb days, you’ll be able to keep your energy levels up while running a caloric deficit. Good, clean, fiber-rich carbs include oats, potatoes, rice and whole-grain bread. Also, limit high-carb drinks like fruit juice to postworkout, when your body needs carbs to speed recovery.
Operation Dinner Out. Be diligent when ordering in a restaurant. Have your meats grilled without oil or grease. Ask for steamed vegetables with no butter. Get a salad (no cheese) with either low-fat dressing or vinaigrette.
Avoid simple sugars. Too much sugar in your diet can wreak havoc on your metabolism by spiking your insulin response and promoting the accumulation of bodyfat over time. Immediately after exercise, however, is an ideal time to ingest simple sugars; otherwise, steer clear.
GI Low. For most of the day, your carb options should be of the low-glycemic variety, meaning they’re digested and burned more slowly. Athletes who eat low-GI carbs burn more fat throughout the day.
Eat more fiber. Fiber, both soluble and insoluble, is essential to health and helps decrease bodyfat. Adults should consume 35–40 grams of fiber per day, with about a third of that coming from insoluble fibrous sources. Along with whole grains rich in beneficial fiber, consume high amounts of fibrous vegetables, such as broccoli, to attain your daily intake. High-fiber foods also promote satiety.
Timed consumption. When you eat is just as important as what you eat. Many people who eat way too much at night should re-evaluate their eating patterns. Eat two-thirds of your day’s calories before dinnertime to avoid overeating late in the day.
Prepare. Watch what you eat around work. If your workplace serves nothing healthy, tote food or snacks along with you. If you’re attending a workplace function in which only junk food is served, pre-eat. Having recently eaten something that’s healthy and adequate in calories to meet your energy needs, it’s easier to say no to the junk and empty calories.
Get yolked. Eating eggs for breakfast was recently found to reduce hunger and food intake for up to 24 hours.
Slow down, Turbo! Successful dieters and fitness buffs will tell you that fast eating and bodyfat go hand in hand because you end up overeating. It takes about 10 minutes for the food in your stomach to signal your brain that you’ve eaten enough.
Don’t be salty. Excess sodium consumption can make you look softer and cause you to burn less fat. Most people get way too much, anyway, especially if you eat a lot of processed foods. To help you look leaner and strip sodium from your diet, drink more water, cut back on highly processed foods and switch to potassium chloride to season your foods.
Got milk? Research has shown that individuals who consume high levels of dietary calcium in a 24-hour period had higher rates of fat oxidation that day than those who consumed lesser amounts. So stock up on low-fat versions of cheese, milk and yogurt; if you’re lactose intolerant, choose dark-green leafy vegetables, legumes and almonds.
Go nuts! Eating a handful of almonds was found to help test subjects lose 62% more weight, 56% more fat and 50% more from their waistline after 24 weeks compared to those who followed the same diet without almonds.
SUPPLEMENTATION
Invest in a fat-burner. Consult your doctor before trying a fat-burner if you have any pre-existing medical conditions such as asthma or high blood pressure, as fat-burners can exacerbate those conditions. New products that combine multiple ingredients, such as Hydroxycut Hardcore and Lipid Fx, work well.
Have a tea party. Green tea, in beverage or capsule form, is a reliable fat-burning aid and is generally safe for most people.
Caffeinate. Drinking coffee before cardio will cause you to burn more fat. Subjects who consumed 300 mg of caffeine two hours before exercising on a stationary bike for 30 minutes were not only able to work out at a higher intensity (more total calories burned) but they also used a much greater percentage of bodyfat for fuel.
Aminos work, too. Researchers found that subjects who ingested about 3 grams of an amino acid mixture before one hour of moderate-intensity exercise on a stationary bike burned the same amount of total calories but more fat than those taking a placebo drink.
The Transporter. Carnitine, which helps transport fats to where they can be burned in the mitochondria of muscle and other cells, can help you burn more fat. One study showed that three weeks of carnitine supplementation increased carnitine levels in muscle and enhanced fat usage during exercise. Another study showed that just 10 days of carnitine supplementation (3 grams per day) increased the amount of fat burned.
Fat for fuel faster. Hydroxycitrate (HCA) appears to enhance fat loss, according to researchers. Subjects taking HCA were able to work out longer and harder, and the amount of calories they burned from fat during the hour of exercise increased. Try taking 250–1,000 mg once or twice a day.
Builder/burner. Creatine not only helps build muscle but can aid in bodyfat loss. Soldiers who took creatine (as opposed to the group that got a placebo) increased strength and muscle mass, but also averaged a 0.5% reduction in bodyfat percentage, with several subjects dropping more than 1% bodyfat.
Take CLA. Conjugated linoleic acid has come into vogue in bodybuilding circles as a fat-burner. Several studies in humans have shown modest effects on fat loss. Try 3 grams per day.
MOTIVATION
Recruit a partner. Weight training with the right partner can help push and motivate you beyond what you’d achieve on your own. He or she can also be a positive and healthy source of competition, if that’s a characteristic that helps drive you in accomplishing specific goals.
Discipline. Tired of how you look? Then understand you’re the only one who can change it. Resolve to do it and do it. Create a plan and carry it out, budgeting time for the gym, food prep and rest for the week.
But be flexible. While you should be rigid about your workout times and food intake, don’t lock yourself into lofty goals such as “I will lose 10 pounds in my first two weeks.” You’re setting yourself up for a fall. Instead, aim to shed up to 2 pounds per week after weeks 4–5. Anything earlier or greater than that should be the fat-free icing on your cake!
Be a fitness nerd. Watch and read everything you can get your hands on (such as Muscle %26amp; Fitness) to learn more about the body, exercise and nutrition. The more you know, the better off you’ll be in the gym.
Join a league or run a race. Many people lack the drive to keep to a regular routine. Giving yourself a reason to get into shape (or stay that way) is a great way to stay on course with your goals. Signing up for a 10K or joining a league in your favorite sport is often motivation enough not to miss your next gym session.
Cheat. To avoid going insane with anger over what you can or can’t eat, allow yourself 1–2 cheat meals per week, depending on how dedicated you can be. Small indulgences make dieting more tolerable, keeping you on track longer.
Stay the course. The watchword for taking off that extra layer of bodyfat is consistency. Stick with it, even if the first week or two are tough — by the third week, you’ll start to form a habit.
Be goal-oriented. To succeed, keep track of your goals. Make them attainable, and write them down to increase your chances of success. Set small goals — such as dropping 5 pounds or losing 2 inches off your waist — that are measurable and attainable. Once you hit those goals, set new ones to keep yourself motivated.
Picture this. Get motivated by hanging up a picture of yourself today next to one from a magazine of what you want to look like. Dream big, but be realistic: You can have a far-improved physique in a month, but more dramatic changes take more time.
Chart progress. Weigh yourself naked just once per week, at the same time of day, preferably on the same scale to ensure accuracy.
email me at crazycanuck7901@yahoo.com of you have any questions or concerns, or want more advice.
BA in Health and Fitness, Certifed Personal Trainer, Wellness Specialist with the YMCA
sure it is, try the south beach diet, and drink lots of water and keep up the running, stop as many times as you need to. Im glad you are tring to lose, im losin too, I did the south beach and lost 10lbs in two weeks, you may think its hard but its really not. walk a lot and cut back on all your sweets, and breads, eat alot of fat free foods and sugar free foods. good luck with this I feel your pain, we are going through this together...lol, im trying to lose 75
The best way to loose weight is to drink lots of water, stop drinking soda all together and walk three miles a day for at least three days a week. I lost 50 lbs in about 4 months and have kept it off...doing that alone...I ate in moderation of course but did not deny myself anything...including ice cream...be diligent...and the best part is you don't have to walk really fast...just walk three miles per day...that is 9 miles a week, 36 miles a month...
I am a 17 year old girl and im 5';4 and 148 lbs So i can relate. The end of my Freshman year and into my Sophomore year I weighed about 174lbs and What really helped me the most was Weight Watchers it works i lose about 1-2 lbs a week.I do still have a ways to go yet about 10-15 more lbs to go yet. If you join you will lose 5-10 lbs like the first week or so but then it slows down. Along with excercise I found that Swimming doing laps in the pool everyday or every other day has really good benefits. Walking is good and so is the elliptical 2 they are both really great for Cardio. Do this atleast 3 or more times a week it will help alot but start off slowly first.
Congrats! You are taking some great steps! Being active is important- try taking a dance class or something like spinning-it will build muscle and endurance. Walking is okay. Any movement helps.
Look at your diet: What are you cutting out? Sodas, snacks, and sugars? good. Entire food groups? BAD. Ask your doctor to recommend a nutritionist, so you can work together to plan something that is right for you.
100 pounds in a year? I don't think so, but you will be healthier and more active. After you form good life habits, you'll be the one losing weight (instead of gaining) in college!
good luck!Teen needs to lose weight. Any advice? How long should it take?
I gotta give thumbs down for that...I had EASILY the best answer, and yet didnt get it. What a waste of friggin time. Way to keep it real
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You need to go to weightwatchers and you do not have to give up any kind of food. My daughter is 17 and is on weight watchers. I am also on w.w. I did not have a lot to lose but have lost 17 lbs. since
Feb.1. My friend has lost 40lbs. since that date.She weighed 225 lbs. It is best to lose it the healthy way and not to deprive yourself of any food, just counting points is great. Please try it and if possible with a friend. Good luck and don't try to take it off fast as it will come back on again. My daughter has been on this diet for about 5 weeks and lost 10 lbs. and she loves it.
Join a kickboxing gym. U will loose all the weight u want and more.
Aim for 1 pound per week to lose. By the end of your first semester, you should be down 50-100 pounds.
Cardio, cardio, cardio. This helps you with the simple philosophy behind fat loss: Burn more calories than you take in. If your goal is fat loss, incorporate 4–6, 30–60-minute sessions per week into your training schedule.
Of iron and sweat. If your goal is to lean out, follow your weight training with cardio. Since lifting depletes glycogen stores, your body is more likely to use fat as its first fuel source during cardio. Also, the combination of the two results in a higher caloric burn postworkout.
Tread heavily. What’s the best exercise and intensity to burn maximal fat? Researchers found that jogging on the treadmill at about 70% of your maximal heart rate, or MHR (subtract your age from 220 and multiply by 0.7 for your heart rate in beats per minute), was optimal, burning about 40 grams of fat per hour of exercise. Going above or below this intensity burned significantly less fat, as did pedaling on a stationary cycle, regardless of intensity.
Run hungry. If you can stomach getting up earlier, perform cardio before your first meal of the day. Your body is most likely to use fat as the first energy source because your glycogen stores are depleted. If you’re concerned with muscle loss, take 10–20 grams of whey protein before your session, but stay away from carbs.
Post-cardio burn. Following aerobic exercise, your resting metabolic rate remains elevated for anywhere from 60 minutes to about 12 hours, depending on the intensity and duration of the exercise session.
Move outdoors. Try your next outdoor run on sand, which is more difficult than running on harder surfaces like cement. It’s easier on the joints as well, but wear shoes to avoid stress fractures and protect your feet from glass. Running on grass is also a welcome relief to joints and arches.
Taper off. Instead of starting slow and building up speed, do your high-intensity cardio early in your workout and taper off to a slow finish to burn significantly more fat. After a 2–3-minute warm-up, immediately kick it into high gear (80%–85% max heart rate) for 15–20 minutes before slowing down (60%–65% max heart rate) for the last 10–20 minutes.
Vary your cardio. Whether you’re lifting weights or doing cardio, the trick is to keep your body from adapting to what you’re doing. Regularly changing your cardio mode is the best way to keep your body responding to your efforts.
Interval for success. Unless you’re a highly conditioned athlete, you can’t maintain a very intense pace for very long, so the best way to improve your aerobic fitness and burn fat is with intervals. That is, you alternate very intense periods of work with lower-intensity sessions in which you recover.
No butts. Smoking deprives cells of the oxygen they need to maximize metabolism, keeps muscles from repairing themselves after exercise and makes cardio a lot tougher. Plus, your smoke-scented clothes are sure to irritate fellow gym rats.
Fidget to fight fat. Are you a fidgeter? Maybe you should be. Several studies have shown that toe-tappers, while completely annoying at the office, will burn more calories over the course of the day than the stationary man.
NUTRITION
Stay hydrated. Active individuals actually require more water and should aim to consume roughly 1 gallon per day to avoid becoming dehydrated. And if you’re one of those people who hates drinking water, consider this: Dehydrated individuals burn less fat than their well-watered counterparts.
Eat more frequently. Eating 5–6 small meals a day as opposed to “three squares a day” causes your metabolism to work constantly. Eating larger meals, on the other hand, slows your metabolism and forces leftover calories to be stored as fat.
Eat protein. Since muscle-building is the fastest route to slim down, you want to make sure that your protein consumption is enough to keep up with your weight training. Eat too little protein and your gains could be much slower. Get 1–1.5 grams of protein per pound of bodyweight per day to help your muscle gains along. Use protein bars and shakes to supplement your whole-food consumption and stave off cravings.
Get leafy. Those who eat a salad before dinner tend to consume less calories overall during dinner. But don’t sabotage yourself — stay away from high-fat dressings like ranch, blue cheese and Caesar.
Skip happy hour. Alcohol consumption can temporarily blunt testosterone levels, hindering muscle repair and growth and blunting sexual drive. Also, the calories from alcoholic beverages — in the neighborhood of 100–200 each without cocktail mixers — add up faster than you may think.
Cut out soda. Instead, rely on water and other flavored drinks like Crystal Light to get your fluids every day. If you drink one soda per day, you’re adding 1,750 calories per week to your diet. Also, studies have shown that those who regularly consume diet sodas tend to gain weight in the long run because of overindulgences elsewhere.
Calories out! The goal in any fat-loss or weight-loss program should be to burn more calories than you consume. Aim to cut total calorie consumption by about 250 calories per day. Yes, that means you’ll have to figure out how many calories you eat in a normal day. Get on it. The math will pay big dividends later.
Got the munchies? If you can do without the butter and salt, plain popcorn is a winner. Two quarts has the same number of calories as just 20 potato chips. By substituting 1 cup of plain, unbuttered popcorn for a 1-ounce bag of chips, you’ll save 135 calories and 10 grams of fat.
The magical fruit. Subjects who ate half of a grapefruit with meals or drank 8 ounces of grapefruit juice three times a day lost 4 pounds (with some losing more than 10 pounds) in 12 weeks without dieting.
Carb smart. Keep your carbohydrates low to moderate when trying to lose weight. If you rotate low- and high-carb days, you’ll be able to keep your energy levels up while running a caloric deficit. Good, clean, fiber-rich carbs include oats, potatoes, rice and whole-grain bread. Also, limit high-carb drinks like fruit juice to postworkout, when your body needs carbs to speed recovery.
Operation Dinner Out. Be diligent when ordering in a restaurant. Have your meats grilled without oil or grease. Ask for steamed vegetables with no butter. Get a salad (no cheese) with either low-fat dressing or vinaigrette.
Avoid simple sugars. Too much sugar in your diet can wreak havoc on your metabolism by spiking your insulin response and promoting the accumulation of bodyfat over time. Immediately after exercise, however, is an ideal time to ingest simple sugars; otherwise, steer clear.
GI Low. For most of the day, your carb options should be of the low-glycemic variety, meaning they’re digested and burned more slowly. Athletes who eat low-GI carbs burn more fat throughout the day.
Eat more fiber. Fiber, both soluble and insoluble, is essential to health and helps decrease bodyfat. Adults should consume 35–40 grams of fiber per day, with about a third of that coming from insoluble fibrous sources. Along with whole grains rich in beneficial fiber, consume high amounts of fibrous vegetables, such as broccoli, to attain your daily intake. High-fiber foods also promote satiety.
Timed consumption. When you eat is just as important as what you eat. Many people who eat way too much at night should re-evaluate their eating patterns. Eat two-thirds of your day’s calories before dinnertime to avoid overeating late in the day.
Prepare. Watch what you eat around work. If your workplace serves nothing healthy, tote food or snacks along with you. If you’re attending a workplace function in which only junk food is served, pre-eat. Having recently eaten something that’s healthy and adequate in calories to meet your energy needs, it’s easier to say no to the junk and empty calories.
Get yolked. Eating eggs for breakfast was recently found to reduce hunger and food intake for up to 24 hours.
Slow down, Turbo! Successful dieters and fitness buffs will tell you that fast eating and bodyfat go hand in hand because you end up overeating. It takes about 10 minutes for the food in your stomach to signal your brain that you’ve eaten enough.
Don’t be salty. Excess sodium consumption can make you look softer and cause you to burn less fat. Most people get way too much, anyway, especially if you eat a lot of processed foods. To help you look leaner and strip sodium from your diet, drink more water, cut back on highly processed foods and switch to potassium chloride to season your foods.
Got milk? Research has shown that individuals who consume high levels of dietary calcium in a 24-hour period had higher rates of fat oxidation that day than those who consumed lesser amounts. So stock up on low-fat versions of cheese, milk and yogurt; if you’re lactose intolerant, choose dark-green leafy vegetables, legumes and almonds.
Go nuts! Eating a handful of almonds was found to help test subjects lose 62% more weight, 56% more fat and 50% more from their waistline after 24 weeks compared to those who followed the same diet without almonds.
SUPPLEMENTATION
Invest in a fat-burner. Consult your doctor before trying a fat-burner if you have any pre-existing medical conditions such as asthma or high blood pressure, as fat-burners can exacerbate those conditions. New products that combine multiple ingredients, such as Hydroxycut Hardcore and Lipid Fx, work well.
Have a tea party. Green tea, in beverage or capsule form, is a reliable fat-burning aid and is generally safe for most people.
Caffeinate. Drinking coffee before cardio will cause you to burn more fat. Subjects who consumed 300 mg of caffeine two hours before exercising on a stationary bike for 30 minutes were not only able to work out at a higher intensity (more total calories burned) but they also used a much greater percentage of bodyfat for fuel.
Aminos work, too. Researchers found that subjects who ingested about 3 grams of an amino acid mixture before one hour of moderate-intensity exercise on a stationary bike burned the same amount of total calories but more fat than those taking a placebo drink.
The Transporter. Carnitine, which helps transport fats to where they can be burned in the mitochondria of muscle and other cells, can help you burn more fat. One study showed that three weeks of carnitine supplementation increased carnitine levels in muscle and enhanced fat usage during exercise. Another study showed that just 10 days of carnitine supplementation (3 grams per day) increased the amount of fat burned.
Fat for fuel faster. Hydroxycitrate (HCA) appears to enhance fat loss, according to researchers. Subjects taking HCA were able to work out longer and harder, and the amount of calories they burned from fat during the hour of exercise increased. Try taking 250–1,000 mg once or twice a day.
Builder/burner. Creatine not only helps build muscle but can aid in bodyfat loss. Soldiers who took creatine (as opposed to the group that got a placebo) increased strength and muscle mass, but also averaged a 0.5% reduction in bodyfat percentage, with several subjects dropping more than 1% bodyfat.
Take CLA. Conjugated linoleic acid has come into vogue in bodybuilding circles as a fat-burner. Several studies in humans have shown modest effects on fat loss. Try 3 grams per day.
MOTIVATION
Recruit a partner. Weight training with the right partner can help push and motivate you beyond what you’d achieve on your own. He or she can also be a positive and healthy source of competition, if that’s a characteristic that helps drive you in accomplishing specific goals.
Discipline. Tired of how you look? Then understand you’re the only one who can change it. Resolve to do it and do it. Create a plan and carry it out, budgeting time for the gym, food prep and rest for the week.
But be flexible. While you should be rigid about your workout times and food intake, don’t lock yourself into lofty goals such as “I will lose 10 pounds in my first two weeks.” You’re setting yourself up for a fall. Instead, aim to shed up to 2 pounds per week after weeks 4–5. Anything earlier or greater than that should be the fat-free icing on your cake!
Be a fitness nerd. Watch and read everything you can get your hands on (such as Muscle %26amp; Fitness) to learn more about the body, exercise and nutrition. The more you know, the better off you’ll be in the gym.
Join a league or run a race. Many people lack the drive to keep to a regular routine. Giving yourself a reason to get into shape (or stay that way) is a great way to stay on course with your goals. Signing up for a 10K or joining a league in your favorite sport is often motivation enough not to miss your next gym session.
Cheat. To avoid going insane with anger over what you can or can’t eat, allow yourself 1–2 cheat meals per week, depending on how dedicated you can be. Small indulgences make dieting more tolerable, keeping you on track longer.
Stay the course. The watchword for taking off that extra layer of bodyfat is consistency. Stick with it, even if the first week or two are tough — by the third week, you’ll start to form a habit.
Be goal-oriented. To succeed, keep track of your goals. Make them attainable, and write them down to increase your chances of success. Set small goals — such as dropping 5 pounds or losing 2 inches off your waist — that are measurable and attainable. Once you hit those goals, set new ones to keep yourself motivated.
Picture this. Get motivated by hanging up a picture of yourself today next to one from a magazine of what you want to look like. Dream big, but be realistic: You can have a far-improved physique in a month, but more dramatic changes take more time.
Chart progress. Weigh yourself naked just once per week, at the same time of day, preferably on the same scale to ensure accuracy.
email me at crazycanuck7901@yahoo.com of you have any questions or concerns, or want more advice.
BA in Health and Fitness, Certifed Personal Trainer, Wellness Specialist with the YMCA
sure it is, try the south beach diet, and drink lots of water and keep up the running, stop as many times as you need to. Im glad you are tring to lose, im losin too, I did the south beach and lost 10lbs in two weeks, you may think its hard but its really not. walk a lot and cut back on all your sweets, and breads, eat alot of fat free foods and sugar free foods. good luck with this I feel your pain, we are going through this together...lol, im trying to lose 75
The best way to loose weight is to drink lots of water, stop drinking soda all together and walk three miles a day for at least three days a week. I lost 50 lbs in about 4 months and have kept it off...doing that alone...I ate in moderation of course but did not deny myself anything...including ice cream...be diligent...and the best part is you don't have to walk really fast...just walk three miles per day...that is 9 miles a week, 36 miles a month...
I am a 17 year old girl and im 5';4 and 148 lbs So i can relate. The end of my Freshman year and into my Sophomore year I weighed about 174lbs and What really helped me the most was Weight Watchers it works i lose about 1-2 lbs a week.I do still have a ways to go yet about 10-15 more lbs to go yet. If you join you will lose 5-10 lbs like the first week or so but then it slows down. Along with excercise I found that Swimming doing laps in the pool everyday or every other day has really good benefits. Walking is good and so is the elliptical 2 they are both really great for Cardio. Do this atleast 3 or more times a week it will help alot but start off slowly first.
Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
I never wanted to work in the first place, especially not so young in life. I know any answer you give me may not change my situation but please...any advice you can give I'll appreciate.Thank You.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Welcome to real life, I never wanted to work either, then I got hungry one day, and thought it might not be such a bad idea after all.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Think about what you want out of life and what you can offer society. What would you like to be doing? Do you have the necessary skills to do it or would you be able to develop those skills? If the latter, what would you need to do? Are you willing to spend considerable time, even perhaps years, working on the underlying things so that some day in the future you can be doing what you want to do? Is upgrading a possibility? Is college even something you want?
Do think long and hard about what you enjoy that you could do and that would benefit others in some way. There's nothing that provides a sense of fulfillment, no matter what it is that you are doing, than recognizing that we are making life at least just a smidge better for others.
If you really have no idea what you'd like to be doing, look up different things on the internet, see if there are free sessions on career counselling or something else where you live, take out books like ';What Color is Your Parachute?'; and check out sites like this http://www.careerplanner.com/ . Don't worry too much about not knowing 'for sure'--people change careers a LOT these days. There's no perfect career for most people, no perfect place to be. Just take some steps in the direction you think you'd like to be and know that you've got lots of time ahead of you to figure something out.
If you are a Christian or open to it, see about youth groups in your area. A growing number are for teens and those into their 20s, kids your age who are struggling with things just as you are. They can be a great source of support.
You control your life. ';Do what you love and the money will follow.'; Try to focus on what it is that you are really interested in and look for work in that area.
Many if not most successful people never went to college, or they dropped out. Also consider courses at your community college, in subject areas that really turn you on. You can jumpstart your career and life, and not float uselessly around like too many these days.
Otherwise, and this I recommend extremely highly, get out of town and go back-packing in Europe, Canada, Thailand or wherever. You have to find a smart travel agent to get you cheap flights. You will find some kind of work, and set up a network of friends round the world that will last a lifetime. Stay in hostels, or wherever it's cheapest, just like all the other teens. Remember this: things happen for a reason and not getting into college this year may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened, IF you make a decision to do something like the above.
Most state universities and community colleges will take all students; though, if you had poor grades or low entrance exam scores you may have to take remedial classes. These will not count toward your degree, so you will have to go more years to get the same degree as others. Go to the closest community college and talk to an admissions counsellor. My guess is you will be able to get in next semester or next fall. Be prepared to work your tail off though! It will NOT be less work than a job.
You are becoming an adult now. That means it is time to get serious about supporting yourself then going beyond that and eventually being able to support a family if you get married. It isn't an easy transition, especially if you have not had to work hard before. But it is the reality of adulthood (age 18+ years and up). The competition is high for the good jobs. Many of the decisions you make now will determine whether you will work the next 60 years in a boring, low-pay job or get yourself motivated to prepare for a more rewarding life's work. It will be easier to work on that preparation now than to wait until you are in your 20's or older and out of your parent's home with real bills to pay. It is up to you to see that, truly, the window of time/opportunity is now and childhood is over. :)
yea man, just work fa a semester. build ur money up and apply fa ur nearest community college. (betta than nuthn)
Don't give up on the college thing. Whatever the reason as to why you didn't make it, just keep trying, there is loads of help out there. For now, I guess just get a job for convenience. But really you would me much better of in college, even a two year technical college. Good luck with everything!
Welcome to real life 101. But seriously, do what my son does, he works at night and takes his basics at a community college. He will transfer after that to a regular 4 year college and finish his major and minor. Its a few years of sacrifice and hard work to go where you really want to be for the rest of yor life.
You don't have to give up college completely. If you didn't get into the college of your choice you can still go to a community college near you. When you are done there and have good grades you can transfer to a four year college. Don't give up. You can still go to school and work at the same time that's what I'm doing.
Assuming you're not just a lazy, good for nothing bum, who is a major disappointment to your parents (just kidding!), many teens have anxiety over working in a professional atmosphere. Believe it or not, it is perfectly normal. I realize it may be too late for you, but that's why good parents foster a sense of workmanship in their kids by making them do household chores (assuming they're not just using the kids as personal slaves!), and, in some cases, earning an allowance for it, though many parents skip that part, as they believe household chores shouldn't be treated as a wage-earning device.
Most community colleges will accept kids with low marks (unless your grades were so low that you need remedial education; wish you had mentioned something about that!). Consider taking one or two classes a week; the credits are transferrable, and, if you work hard and get good grades, a college might see that you are earnest in your desire to get into college (which, BTW, you didn't indicate whether you really wanted to do or not!), and might let you ';slide'; in on those merits.
Worse comes to work, consider volunteer work at your local library, pet shelter, community clean-up or garden, Peace Corps, etc. The relatively little work that you'd do for free, just might be the ';kick-in-the-pants'; you need to make you realize that you can do a ';real'; job AND get paid for it!
FWIW, I have had MANY jobs in my life - - some menial, some not; some indoor, some outdoor; some had great wages, some had lousy wages - - but none of them were so tortuous, as long as I kept a good attitude and kept in mind that I'm in someone else's ';house';, and that I have to respect them and the job.
And, BTW, I currently have a very good job, and volunteer my time for a few different groups, and even have time to place tennis a couple of times a week, and, yes, even watch some sports on TV.
So, work is what you make of it, as is college. You are too young to be despondent about either. Focus to improve your situation and yourself, and your life will be a whole lot better for it (not to mention that it might get you out of the house, sooner, much to your parents' relief!). ;)
DONT WORK IN A DEPARTMENT STORE OR IN A FAST FOOD CHAIN
department stores and fast food chains take advantage of people and give them low pay
Try working for a small business or a office type job
To get those jobs go to a interview dressed cleanly, talk with confidence and look the interviewer in the eye
However it would be best for you to try and apply into a college, even if it is a community or college for adults.
College would let you learn a trade, which well help you find a job
Work, save up money, and try college again and again. In this day in age, you will never get a decent paying job without a college degree.
You did not get into college and now work. The advice I can give you is apply again apply to a community college that way when you get good grades there you can transfer to a different college. So you can both work part time and are in college full time. This is the only advice I can give you, and keep your head up HIGH!!!
What are you confused about? Explain what your situation is that may not be able to change. Is it that you're lazy?
Welcome to real life, I never wanted to work either, then I got hungry one day, and thought it might not be such a bad idea after all.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Think about what you want out of life and what you can offer society. What would you like to be doing? Do you have the necessary skills to do it or would you be able to develop those skills? If the latter, what would you need to do? Are you willing to spend considerable time, even perhaps years, working on the underlying things so that some day in the future you can be doing what you want to do? Is upgrading a possibility? Is college even something you want?
Do think long and hard about what you enjoy that you could do and that would benefit others in some way. There's nothing that provides a sense of fulfillment, no matter what it is that you are doing, than recognizing that we are making life at least just a smidge better for others.
If you really have no idea what you'd like to be doing, look up different things on the internet, see if there are free sessions on career counselling or something else where you live, take out books like ';What Color is Your Parachute?'; and check out sites like this http://www.careerplanner.com/ . Don't worry too much about not knowing 'for sure'--people change careers a LOT these days. There's no perfect career for most people, no perfect place to be. Just take some steps in the direction you think you'd like to be and know that you've got lots of time ahead of you to figure something out.
If you are a Christian or open to it, see about youth groups in your area. A growing number are for teens and those into their 20s, kids your age who are struggling with things just as you are. They can be a great source of support.
You control your life. ';Do what you love and the money will follow.'; Try to focus on what it is that you are really interested in and look for work in that area.
Many if not most successful people never went to college, or they dropped out. Also consider courses at your community college, in subject areas that really turn you on. You can jumpstart your career and life, and not float uselessly around like too many these days.
Otherwise, and this I recommend extremely highly, get out of town and go back-packing in Europe, Canada, Thailand or wherever. You have to find a smart travel agent to get you cheap flights. You will find some kind of work, and set up a network of friends round the world that will last a lifetime. Stay in hostels, or wherever it's cheapest, just like all the other teens. Remember this: things happen for a reason and not getting into college this year may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened, IF you make a decision to do something like the above.
Most state universities and community colleges will take all students; though, if you had poor grades or low entrance exam scores you may have to take remedial classes. These will not count toward your degree, so you will have to go more years to get the same degree as others. Go to the closest community college and talk to an admissions counsellor. My guess is you will be able to get in next semester or next fall. Be prepared to work your tail off though! It will NOT be less work than a job.
You are becoming an adult now. That means it is time to get serious about supporting yourself then going beyond that and eventually being able to support a family if you get married. It isn't an easy transition, especially if you have not had to work hard before. But it is the reality of adulthood (age 18+ years and up). The competition is high for the good jobs. Many of the decisions you make now will determine whether you will work the next 60 years in a boring, low-pay job or get yourself motivated to prepare for a more rewarding life's work. It will be easier to work on that preparation now than to wait until you are in your 20's or older and out of your parent's home with real bills to pay. It is up to you to see that, truly, the window of time/opportunity is now and childhood is over. :)
yea man, just work fa a semester. build ur money up and apply fa ur nearest community college. (betta than nuthn)
Don't give up on the college thing. Whatever the reason as to why you didn't make it, just keep trying, there is loads of help out there. For now, I guess just get a job for convenience. But really you would me much better of in college, even a two year technical college. Good luck with everything!
Welcome to real life 101. But seriously, do what my son does, he works at night and takes his basics at a community college. He will transfer after that to a regular 4 year college and finish his major and minor. Its a few years of sacrifice and hard work to go where you really want to be for the rest of yor life.
You don't have to give up college completely. If you didn't get into the college of your choice you can still go to a community college near you. When you are done there and have good grades you can transfer to a four year college. Don't give up. You can still go to school and work at the same time that's what I'm doing.
Assuming you're not just a lazy, good for nothing bum, who is a major disappointment to your parents (just kidding!), many teens have anxiety over working in a professional atmosphere. Believe it or not, it is perfectly normal. I realize it may be too late for you, but that's why good parents foster a sense of workmanship in their kids by making them do household chores (assuming they're not just using the kids as personal slaves!), and, in some cases, earning an allowance for it, though many parents skip that part, as they believe household chores shouldn't be treated as a wage-earning device.
Most community colleges will accept kids with low marks (unless your grades were so low that you need remedial education; wish you had mentioned something about that!). Consider taking one or two classes a week; the credits are transferrable, and, if you work hard and get good grades, a college might see that you are earnest in your desire to get into college (which, BTW, you didn't indicate whether you really wanted to do or not!), and might let you ';slide'; in on those merits.
Worse comes to work, consider volunteer work at your local library, pet shelter, community clean-up or garden, Peace Corps, etc. The relatively little work that you'd do for free, just might be the ';kick-in-the-pants'; you need to make you realize that you can do a ';real'; job AND get paid for it!
FWIW, I have had MANY jobs in my life - - some menial, some not; some indoor, some outdoor; some had great wages, some had lousy wages - - but none of them were so tortuous, as long as I kept a good attitude and kept in mind that I'm in someone else's ';house';, and that I have to respect them and the job.
And, BTW, I currently have a very good job, and volunteer my time for a few different groups, and even have time to place tennis a couple of times a week, and, yes, even watch some sports on TV.
So, work is what you make of it, as is college. You are too young to be despondent about either. Focus to improve your situation and yourself, and your life will be a whole lot better for it (not to mention that it might get you out of the house, sooner, much to your parents' relief!). ;)
DONT WORK IN A DEPARTMENT STORE OR IN A FAST FOOD CHAIN
department stores and fast food chains take advantage of people and give them low pay
Try working for a small business or a office type job
To get those jobs go to a interview dressed cleanly, talk with confidence and look the interviewer in the eye
However it would be best for you to try and apply into a college, even if it is a community or college for adults.
College would let you learn a trade, which well help you find a job
Work, save up money, and try college again and again. In this day in age, you will never get a decent paying job without a college degree.
You did not get into college and now work. The advice I can give you is apply again apply to a community college that way when you get good grades there you can transfer to a different college. So you can both work part time and are in college full time. This is the only advice I can give you, and keep your head up HIGH!!!
What are you confused about? Explain what your situation is that may not be able to change. Is it that you're lazy?
Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
I never wanted to work in the first place, especially not so young in life. I know any answer you give me may not change my situation but please...any advice you can give I'll appreciate.Thank You.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Welcome to real life, I never wanted to work either, then I got hungry one day, and thought it might not be such a bad idea after all.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Think about what you want out of life and what you can offer society. What would you like to be doing? Do you have the necessary skills to do it or would you be able to develop those skills? If the latter, what would you need to do? Are you willing to spend considerable time, even perhaps years, working on the underlying things so that some day in the future you can be doing what you want to do? Is upgrading a possibility? Is college even something you want?
Do think long and hard about what you enjoy that you could do and that would benefit others in some way. There's nothing that provides a sense of fulfillment, no matter what it is that you are doing, than recognizing that we are making life at least just a smidge better for others.
If you really have no idea what you'd like to be doing, look up different things on the internet, see if there are free sessions on career counselling or something else where you live, take out books like ';What Color is Your Parachute?'; and check out sites like this http://www.careerplanner.com/ . Don't worry too much about not knowing 'for sure'--people change careers a LOT these days. There's no perfect career for most people, no perfect place to be. Just take some steps in the direction you think you'd like to be and know that you've got lots of time ahead of you to figure something out.
If you are a Christian or open to it, see about youth groups in your area. A growing number are for teens and those into their 20s, kids your age who are struggling with things just as you are. They can be a great source of support.
You control your life. ';Do what you love and the money will follow.'; Try to focus on what it is that you are really interested in and look for work in that area.
Many if not most successful people never went to college, or they dropped out. Also consider courses at your community college, in subject areas that really turn you on. You can jumpstart your career and life, and not float uselessly around like too many these days.
Otherwise, and this I recommend extremely highly, get out of town and go back-packing in Europe, Canada, Thailand or wherever. You have to find a smart travel agent to get you cheap flights. You will find some kind of work, and set up a network of friends round the world that will last a lifetime. Stay in hostels, or wherever it's cheapest, just like all the other teens. Remember this: things happen for a reason and not getting into college this year may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened, IF you make a decision to do something like the above.
Most state universities and community colleges will take all students; though, if you had poor grades or low entrance exam scores you may have to take remedial classes. These will not count toward your degree, so you will have to go more years to get the same degree as others. Go to the closest community college and talk to an admissions counsellor. My guess is you will be able to get in next semester or next fall. Be prepared to work your tail off though! It will NOT be less work than a job.
You are becoming an adult now. That means it is time to get serious about supporting yourself then going beyond that and eventually being able to support a family if you get married. It isn't an easy transition, especially if you have not had to work hard before. But it is the reality of adulthood (age 18+ years and up). The competition is high for the good jobs. Many of the decisions you make now will determine whether you will work the next 60 years in a boring, low-pay job or get yourself motivated to prepare for a more rewarding life's work. It will be easier to work on that preparation now than to wait until you are in your 20's or older and out of your parent's home with real bills to pay. It is up to you to see that, truly, the window of time/opportunity is now and childhood is over. :)
yea man, just work fa a semester. build ur money up and apply fa ur nearest community college. (betta than nuthn)
Don't give up on the college thing. Whatever the reason as to why you didn't make it, just keep trying, there is loads of help out there. For now, I guess just get a job for convenience. But really you would me much better of in college, even a two year technical college. Good luck with everything!
Welcome to real life 101. But seriously, do what my son does, he works at night and takes his basics at a community college. He will transfer after that to a regular 4 year college and finish his major and minor. Its a few years of sacrifice and hard work to go where you really want to be for the rest of yor life.
You don't have to give up college completely. If you didn't get into the college of your choice you can still go to a community college near you. When you are done there and have good grades you can transfer to a four year college. Don't give up. You can still go to school and work at the same time that's what I'm doing.
Assuming you're not just a lazy, good for nothing bum, who is a major disappointment to your parents (just kidding!), many teens have anxiety over working in a professional atmosphere. Believe it or not, it is perfectly normal. I realize it may be too late for you, but that's why good parents foster a sense of workmanship in their kids by making them do household chores (assuming they're not just using the kids as personal slaves!), and, in some cases, earning an allowance for it, though many parents skip that part, as they believe household chores shouldn't be treated as a wage-earning device.
Most community colleges will accept kids with low marks (unless your grades were so low that you need remedial education; wish you had mentioned something about that!). Consider taking one or two classes a week; the credits are transferrable, and, if you work hard and get good grades, a college might see that you are earnest in your desire to get into college (which, BTW, you didn't indicate whether you really wanted to do or not!), and might let you ';slide'; in on those merits.
Worse comes to work, consider volunteer work at your local library, pet shelter, community clean-up or garden, Peace Corps, etc. The relatively little work that you'd do for free, just might be the ';kick-in-the-pants'; you need to make you realize that you can do a ';real'; job AND get paid for it!
FWIW, I have had MANY jobs in my life - - some menial, some not; some indoor, some outdoor; some had great wages, some had lousy wages - - but none of them were so tortuous, as long as I kept a good attitude and kept in mind that I'm in someone else's ';house';, and that I have to respect them and the job.
And, BTW, I currently have a very good job, and volunteer my time for a few different groups, and even have time to place tennis a couple of times a week, and, yes, even watch some sports on TV.
So, work is what you make of it, as is college. You are too young to be despondent about either. Focus to improve your situation and yourself, and your life will be a whole lot better for it (not to mention that it might get you out of the house, sooner, much to your parents' relief!). ;)
DONT WORK IN A DEPARTMENT STORE OR IN A FAST FOOD CHAIN
department stores and fast food chains take advantage of people and give them low pay
Try working for a small business or a office type job
To get those jobs go to a interview dressed cleanly, talk with confidence and look the interviewer in the eye
However it would be best for you to try and apply into a college, even if it is a community or college for adults.
College would let you learn a trade, which well help you find a job
Work, save up money, and try college again and again. In this day in age, you will never get a decent paying job without a college degree.
You did not get into college and now work. The advice I can give you is apply again apply to a community college that way when you get good grades there you can transfer to a different college. So you can both work part time and are in college full time. This is the only advice I can give you, and keep your head up HIGH!!!
What are you confused about? Explain what your situation is that may not be able to change. Is it that you're lazy?
Welcome to real life, I never wanted to work either, then I got hungry one day, and thought it might not be such a bad idea after all.Do you have any advice for a teen who didn't make it into college and now has to work? I am so confused...
Think about what you want out of life and what you can offer society. What would you like to be doing? Do you have the necessary skills to do it or would you be able to develop those skills? If the latter, what would you need to do? Are you willing to spend considerable time, even perhaps years, working on the underlying things so that some day in the future you can be doing what you want to do? Is upgrading a possibility? Is college even something you want?
Do think long and hard about what you enjoy that you could do and that would benefit others in some way. There's nothing that provides a sense of fulfillment, no matter what it is that you are doing, than recognizing that we are making life at least just a smidge better for others.
If you really have no idea what you'd like to be doing, look up different things on the internet, see if there are free sessions on career counselling or something else where you live, take out books like ';What Color is Your Parachute?'; and check out sites like this http://www.careerplanner.com/ . Don't worry too much about not knowing 'for sure'--people change careers a LOT these days. There's no perfect career for most people, no perfect place to be. Just take some steps in the direction you think you'd like to be and know that you've got lots of time ahead of you to figure something out.
If you are a Christian or open to it, see about youth groups in your area. A growing number are for teens and those into their 20s, kids your age who are struggling with things just as you are. They can be a great source of support.
You control your life. ';Do what you love and the money will follow.'; Try to focus on what it is that you are really interested in and look for work in that area.
Many if not most successful people never went to college, or they dropped out. Also consider courses at your community college, in subject areas that really turn you on. You can jumpstart your career and life, and not float uselessly around like too many these days.
Otherwise, and this I recommend extremely highly, get out of town and go back-packing in Europe, Canada, Thailand or wherever. You have to find a smart travel agent to get you cheap flights. You will find some kind of work, and set up a network of friends round the world that will last a lifetime. Stay in hostels, or wherever it's cheapest, just like all the other teens. Remember this: things happen for a reason and not getting into college this year may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened, IF you make a decision to do something like the above.
Most state universities and community colleges will take all students; though, if you had poor grades or low entrance exam scores you may have to take remedial classes. These will not count toward your degree, so you will have to go more years to get the same degree as others. Go to the closest community college and talk to an admissions counsellor. My guess is you will be able to get in next semester or next fall. Be prepared to work your tail off though! It will NOT be less work than a job.
You are becoming an adult now. That means it is time to get serious about supporting yourself then going beyond that and eventually being able to support a family if you get married. It isn't an easy transition, especially if you have not had to work hard before. But it is the reality of adulthood (age 18+ years and up). The competition is high for the good jobs. Many of the decisions you make now will determine whether you will work the next 60 years in a boring, low-pay job or get yourself motivated to prepare for a more rewarding life's work. It will be easier to work on that preparation now than to wait until you are in your 20's or older and out of your parent's home with real bills to pay. It is up to you to see that, truly, the window of time/opportunity is now and childhood is over. :)
yea man, just work fa a semester. build ur money up and apply fa ur nearest community college. (betta than nuthn)
Don't give up on the college thing. Whatever the reason as to why you didn't make it, just keep trying, there is loads of help out there. For now, I guess just get a job for convenience. But really you would me much better of in college, even a two year technical college. Good luck with everything!
Welcome to real life 101. But seriously, do what my son does, he works at night and takes his basics at a community college. He will transfer after that to a regular 4 year college and finish his major and minor. Its a few years of sacrifice and hard work to go where you really want to be for the rest of yor life.
You don't have to give up college completely. If you didn't get into the college of your choice you can still go to a community college near you. When you are done there and have good grades you can transfer to a four year college. Don't give up. You can still go to school and work at the same time that's what I'm doing.
Assuming you're not just a lazy, good for nothing bum, who is a major disappointment to your parents (just kidding!), many teens have anxiety over working in a professional atmosphere. Believe it or not, it is perfectly normal. I realize it may be too late for you, but that's why good parents foster a sense of workmanship in their kids by making them do household chores (assuming they're not just using the kids as personal slaves!), and, in some cases, earning an allowance for it, though many parents skip that part, as they believe household chores shouldn't be treated as a wage-earning device.
Most community colleges will accept kids with low marks (unless your grades were so low that you need remedial education; wish you had mentioned something about that!). Consider taking one or two classes a week; the credits are transferrable, and, if you work hard and get good grades, a college might see that you are earnest in your desire to get into college (which, BTW, you didn't indicate whether you really wanted to do or not!), and might let you ';slide'; in on those merits.
Worse comes to work, consider volunteer work at your local library, pet shelter, community clean-up or garden, Peace Corps, etc. The relatively little work that you'd do for free, just might be the ';kick-in-the-pants'; you need to make you realize that you can do a ';real'; job AND get paid for it!
FWIW, I have had MANY jobs in my life - - some menial, some not; some indoor, some outdoor; some had great wages, some had lousy wages - - but none of them were so tortuous, as long as I kept a good attitude and kept in mind that I'm in someone else's ';house';, and that I have to respect them and the job.
And, BTW, I currently have a very good job, and volunteer my time for a few different groups, and even have time to place tennis a couple of times a week, and, yes, even watch some sports on TV.
So, work is what you make of it, as is college. You are too young to be despondent about either. Focus to improve your situation and yourself, and your life will be a whole lot better for it (not to mention that it might get you out of the house, sooner, much to your parents' relief!). ;)
DONT WORK IN A DEPARTMENT STORE OR IN A FAST FOOD CHAIN
department stores and fast food chains take advantage of people and give them low pay
Try working for a small business or a office type job
To get those jobs go to a interview dressed cleanly, talk with confidence and look the interviewer in the eye
However it would be best for you to try and apply into a college, even if it is a community or college for adults.
College would let you learn a trade, which well help you find a job
Work, save up money, and try college again and again. In this day in age, you will never get a decent paying job without a college degree.
You did not get into college and now work. The advice I can give you is apply again apply to a community college that way when you get good grades there you can transfer to a different college. So you can both work part time and are in college full time. This is the only advice I can give you, and keep your head up HIGH!!!
What are you confused about? Explain what your situation is that may not be able to change. Is it that you're lazy?
I need advice on high school!!!??this is for ALL teens out there!answer mine pleasE?(10 points)?
I need advice on highschool because middle school has been crap.
can people in highschool give me advice pleease???i wanna know how to act how to talk,walk,everything!!!icluding what not to do....i want so much out of highschool: love,a good clique,etc...because im in 8th and every friday all these groups go to the mall and stuff with there groups, and i dont have one to go with! sooo what should i do!?how should i act?what do i say to people in highschool??how can i be myself if i dont know myself??help!I need advice on high school!!!??this is for ALL teens out there!answer mine pleasE?(10 points)?
hey I was just like you back i my beginning years :)
just think, which group do YOU think you'd fit in with?
theirs no specific way that you should be walking, so just walk normal.
nobody cares how you walk, unless you walk funny.
talk, like you talk now, again, nobody cares how you talk.
clothing however, I wouldn't say its super important...
but just don't wear the same thing over and over.
oh and remember, EVERY TIME you feel like saying something, SAY IT. that pretty much makes you more interesting and people will WANT ot be with you. It doesn't matter what it is that you say, just say it.
UNLESS its mean, DO NOT ever-ever say anything mean.
you are 10 times more likable if you don't use derogatory terms.
also try to bring in your adventurous wild side out, that helps a lot.
you know since you really don't seem to be good with this stuff, Id say you should go for the Punks/emo kids. nobody really labels themselves so don't ask anybody ';are you emo';
just lean toward the ones that fit that category.
they always are the nicest people.
I need advice on high school!!!??this is for ALL teens out there!answer mine pleasE?(10 points)?
follow the crowd, get in with people who seem to be friends with other people to get popular.
do them if you want fun and supposed ';friends'; in school and want to seem ';popular';
in my opinion, you should be yourself, act how u always act, and if people dnt like u then so wat! friends from school hardly ever last
choice is urs
Once you get into highschool there's usually a lot more new people to meet so get out there and meet new friends, still be yourself and dont get too caught up in cliques, because these dont exist in the real world. Highschool is just another phase in your life dont get too stressed about it and get involved!
no one knows who they really are in highschool...or even ever.just do what you think is right and everything will come into place...dont worry about cliques and all of that crap. if your generaly a nice person..you will get nice friends.dont worry about what people think, becuase people dont think at all anyway :P dont give into peer pressure and be sure to make your own choices..have fun!you dont have to worry about a lot in highschool except for grades.dont get involved in all of that drama (:
You are talking to the right person..im in high school already..
you shouldn't exaggerate..that is one of the first things.
2.you should not act too girly..so dum like when you see a snail dont be like 'eww look at that snail' and exxaggerate..you know..
3rd be nice to people try to talk with them like the ones who sit in the side of you..unless there annoying..dont be a SNITCH ..you will totally be down.! TRy to dress like cute..and wear some kind of make up maybe lip gloss..or some eye shadow..4th when you have like spirit week thats a GOOD chance to show your spirit!! anything else add me as a contact and get back at me!
laters.!
High School is usually different from middle school. Kids are more mature and usually leave each other alone, because they are so busy with school/picking colleges/ homework/relationships etc.
When you start your classes and you pick where to seat, pick someone that you genuinely want to be friends with, introduce yourself. It's great way to get friends. If you do that in every class, you'll have a great start. At lunch find one of them and sit with them (you could rotate this depending on the different people you've met) Note that it may take a couple of weeks before you actually hang out with any of them, because who really wants to hang out with a stranger?
High school about figuring yourself out, what you want to do with your life, your goals and dreams. Its an emotional roller coaster, so pick people who are real and good friends, and be the same to them. Just be yourself and don't compromise, this is important because otherwise you seem like a wannabe. Good Luck!
wrinkles
can people in highschool give me advice pleease???i wanna know how to act how to talk,walk,everything!!!icluding what not to do....i want so much out of highschool: love,a good clique,etc...because im in 8th and every friday all these groups go to the mall and stuff with there groups, and i dont have one to go with! sooo what should i do!?how should i act?what do i say to people in highschool??how can i be myself if i dont know myself??help!I need advice on high school!!!??this is for ALL teens out there!answer mine pleasE?(10 points)?
hey I was just like you back i my beginning years :)
just think, which group do YOU think you'd fit in with?
theirs no specific way that you should be walking, so just walk normal.
nobody cares how you walk, unless you walk funny.
talk, like you talk now, again, nobody cares how you talk.
clothing however, I wouldn't say its super important...
but just don't wear the same thing over and over.
oh and remember, EVERY TIME you feel like saying something, SAY IT. that pretty much makes you more interesting and people will WANT ot be with you. It doesn't matter what it is that you say, just say it.
UNLESS its mean, DO NOT ever-ever say anything mean.
you are 10 times more likable if you don't use derogatory terms.
also try to bring in your adventurous wild side out, that helps a lot.
you know since you really don't seem to be good with this stuff, Id say you should go for the Punks/emo kids. nobody really labels themselves so don't ask anybody ';are you emo';
just lean toward the ones that fit that category.
they always are the nicest people.
I need advice on high school!!!??this is for ALL teens out there!answer mine pleasE?(10 points)?
follow the crowd, get in with people who seem to be friends with other people to get popular.
do them if you want fun and supposed ';friends'; in school and want to seem ';popular';
in my opinion, you should be yourself, act how u always act, and if people dnt like u then so wat! friends from school hardly ever last
choice is urs
Once you get into highschool there's usually a lot more new people to meet so get out there and meet new friends, still be yourself and dont get too caught up in cliques, because these dont exist in the real world. Highschool is just another phase in your life dont get too stressed about it and get involved!
no one knows who they really are in highschool...or even ever.just do what you think is right and everything will come into place...dont worry about cliques and all of that crap. if your generaly a nice person..you will get nice friends.dont worry about what people think, becuase people dont think at all anyway :P dont give into peer pressure and be sure to make your own choices..have fun!you dont have to worry about a lot in highschool except for grades.dont get involved in all of that drama (:
You are talking to the right person..im in high school already..
you shouldn't exaggerate..that is one of the first things.
2.you should not act too girly..so dum like when you see a snail dont be like 'eww look at that snail' and exxaggerate..you know..
3rd be nice to people try to talk with them like the ones who sit in the side of you..unless there annoying..dont be a SNITCH ..you will totally be down.! TRy to dress like cute..and wear some kind of make up maybe lip gloss..or some eye shadow..4th when you have like spirit week thats a GOOD chance to show your spirit!! anything else add me as a contact and get back at me!
laters.!
High School is usually different from middle school. Kids are more mature and usually leave each other alone, because they are so busy with school/picking colleges/ homework/relationships etc.
When you start your classes and you pick where to seat, pick someone that you genuinely want to be friends with, introduce yourself. It's great way to get friends. If you do that in every class, you'll have a great start. At lunch find one of them and sit with them (you could rotate this depending on the different people you've met) Note that it may take a couple of weeks before you actually hang out with any of them, because who really wants to hang out with a stranger?
High school about figuring yourself out, what you want to do with your life, your goals and dreams. Its an emotional roller coaster, so pick people who are real and good friends, and be the same to them. Just be yourself and don't compromise, this is important because otherwise you seem like a wannabe. Good Luck!
I need advice from a catholic that is good with teens?
my friend and i have have been fighting on and and we used to be BEST friends shes changed and lied SOOO MUCH i get tears when ithink about it.
but people think im crzy but no matter what she does i STILL love her and i cant let her go,
these fights are prolly the worst fights and things that has ever happened to me..
i have SO much pain and depression and im only 13
i need gods help PLEASE help me because im NEVER going to be able to let her goo..
this is a lot worse than you think it iss..
PLEASE HELPP ME.
and i believe everything happens for a reason..
well then WHY THE **** IS GOD TEARING ME APART SO MUCH AND HURTING ME SO BADLY WHEN I PRAY MY HEART OUT FOR THIS GIRL EVERYDAY.I need advice from a catholic that is good with teens?
I think you need to get some distance between you and her, even if it's hard.
I don't necessarily mean let her go, but just kind of take a break from the friendship until the emotions die down a little.
Prayer might help, and I don't just mean Mass (although that's good), I also mean some quiet time in the Church, without other people around.
If this is possible for you. If you need to calm down first, say the Rosary, it's wonderfully calming. Ask for the intercession of the BVM.
Remember the Beatles' song, ';Let it be?';
When I find myself in times of trouble, mother Mary comes to me,
speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me,
speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
She will be there for you, too.
Could you talk to a priest about it? Not all clergy are good with kind of thing, but some are. Or a nun? Or a really good youth leader?
I mean, I think you need to talk to someone in person about this.
I think I understand teenagers very well, and generally when they use the word ';never'; (as you have done), they may well be thinking in terms of weeks, not decades. When you calm down a little, ask yourself whether this applies to you.I need advice from a catholic that is good with teens?
I'm going to pretend that I believe there is a god for a second to answer your question:
God has bigger issues than melodramatic 13-year-olds. He's got cancer patients to save. Solve the problem yourself instead of begging your big invisible friend to help. Praying is essentially wishing. Take action yourself. Don't wait for divine intervention, because even if there is some omnipotent being who can change anything at will, he's obviously not going to.
Hang in there. God will not desert you, but you have to find peace within yourself. There come times when praying for someone is the best you can do, and in order to save yourself you have to leave the other person to make their own choices and accept their own consequences. If this relationship is causing you so much pain, it is REALLY important for you to distance yourself, at least for a while. You'll never be able to solve anything while you are so torn up.
Your 13, you think this is the worst thing that has every happened to you, just wait for a year or two and you wont even remember this. Trust me.
Honestly if you think this is ';pain and depression';then you must of had a pretty good life.If shes been lying and you don't like her anymore then just leave.
Maybe it's not God tearing you up but your own actions towards her that's making you two fight.
dude your 13, you will meet hundreds more girls in highschool and college let it go, you sound like a stalker or something.
Oh hons, k, so like plp change so like totally let the snob go...
but people think im crzy but no matter what she does i STILL love her and i cant let her go,
these fights are prolly the worst fights and things that has ever happened to me..
i have SO much pain and depression and im only 13
i need gods help PLEASE help me because im NEVER going to be able to let her goo..
this is a lot worse than you think it iss..
PLEASE HELPP ME.
and i believe everything happens for a reason..
well then WHY THE **** IS GOD TEARING ME APART SO MUCH AND HURTING ME SO BADLY WHEN I PRAY MY HEART OUT FOR THIS GIRL EVERYDAY.I need advice from a catholic that is good with teens?
I think you need to get some distance between you and her, even if it's hard.
I don't necessarily mean let her go, but just kind of take a break from the friendship until the emotions die down a little.
Prayer might help, and I don't just mean Mass (although that's good), I also mean some quiet time in the Church, without other people around.
If this is possible for you. If you need to calm down first, say the Rosary, it's wonderfully calming. Ask for the intercession of the BVM.
Remember the Beatles' song, ';Let it be?';
When I find myself in times of trouble, mother Mary comes to me,
speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me,
speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
She will be there for you, too.
Could you talk to a priest about it? Not all clergy are good with kind of thing, but some are. Or a nun? Or a really good youth leader?
I mean, I think you need to talk to someone in person about this.
I think I understand teenagers very well, and generally when they use the word ';never'; (as you have done), they may well be thinking in terms of weeks, not decades. When you calm down a little, ask yourself whether this applies to you.I need advice from a catholic that is good with teens?
I'm going to pretend that I believe there is a god for a second to answer your question:
God has bigger issues than melodramatic 13-year-olds. He's got cancer patients to save. Solve the problem yourself instead of begging your big invisible friend to help. Praying is essentially wishing. Take action yourself. Don't wait for divine intervention, because even if there is some omnipotent being who can change anything at will, he's obviously not going to.
Hang in there. God will not desert you, but you have to find peace within yourself. There come times when praying for someone is the best you can do, and in order to save yourself you have to leave the other person to make their own choices and accept their own consequences. If this relationship is causing you so much pain, it is REALLY important for you to distance yourself, at least for a while. You'll never be able to solve anything while you are so torn up.
Your 13, you think this is the worst thing that has every happened to you, just wait for a year or two and you wont even remember this. Trust me.
Honestly if you think this is ';pain and depression';then you must of had a pretty good life.If shes been lying and you don't like her anymore then just leave.
Maybe it's not God tearing you up but your own actions towards her that's making you two fight.
dude your 13, you will meet hundreds more girls in highschool and college let it go, you sound like a stalker or something.
Oh hons, k, so like plp change so like totally let the snob go...
I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
im a 15 yr old guy and im thinking of just doing away with my body hair. see i have black body hair and totally white skin plus the amount and length of it is terribly large so i look like a sasquatch and im not even done puberty. BUT im afraid other guys would make fun of me like in the locker room and my dad is totally opposed to it. if i get more muscle could i use that as an excuse to get rid of my hair? and finally what would be the best method to get rid of it other than shaving and i tried waxing before but it didnt wrk out too well cause i couldnt get the stuff off fast enough so would it be easier if someone helped me namely a gf if shes willing to? thanks in advance.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
you can use NAIR, shave, or wax. i would just leave it alone cause the more you remove it the thicker and darker it'll come back. also in my personal opinion guys with no hair is a bigger turn off then guys with lots of hair. and most guys would probably think your weird.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
hair removal products. but dnt worry, hair is manly and dont let anyone put you down for it. itsnot something you can control or you chose.
you could use nair.
you can use NAIR, shave, or wax. i would just leave it alone cause the more you remove it the thicker and darker it'll come back. also in my personal opinion guys with no hair is a bigger turn off then guys with lots of hair. and most guys would probably think your weird.I need advice for getting rid of body hair (preferably teens)?
hair removal products. but dnt worry, hair is manly and dont let anyone put you down for it. itsnot something you can control or you chose.
you could use nair.
I need advice about moving to France in my late teens?
Most of my extended family are moving to France (all the same area) and my mum wants to go too. I'm 18 and still living at home. If she was to go this year I would have to go too as I'm not in a position to live on my own right now. I'm also very shy and find it hard to make friends. I'm working on that though and am starting French classes anyway for when I go to visit my family. The main reason to go would be to be near my family but that would also mean leaving other family and friends here. My two favourite things to do are going shopping and going to concerts (i hate that word, i don't know why lol). What is shopping like in France compared to the UK? And am I right in thinking that Paris is pretty much the only place in France that american and uk bands will play? I don't really see myself in France so if I did go it would only be for a year or so. Urgh. I'm really confused. I don't know what to do. Has anyone moved to France in their late teens from the UK? What was it like, what's different, what's the same? We haven't talked about it in a while but I'm wondering if it's worth putting it back on the table.
I don't know how much sense that will make to other people but my heads a bit all over the place about it so if you do understand please help lol
thanks xxI need advice about moving to France in my late teens?
As far as bands and concerts go you'd be surprised at who plays where in France, this site will tell you what's on and where, it's in French but not to hard too work out. http://www.viafrance.com/
As for shopping it really depends on where you'll be living. Most big towns and cities are pretty good for shopping, a lot of the clothes stores tend to be large and just outside of town.
If you're going to be living in the sticks, a small village or anywhere rural then it's going to be very, very quiet.I need advice about moving to France in my late teens?
Hey i'm french and i live in France ^^
I live in south of France, near Spain and Mediterann茅e :P
Bands come play there you know, and not only in Paris haha :D
Last time Snoop dog came, so ^^
In Nantes or Le mans, weather is not as good as Perpignan (where i live).
Nantes isn't in the middle of France, Nantes is in the north. Le mans i don't know.
Nantes is calm and people are very nice there, my exboyfriend live there now so he told me.
In France, 18 is the majority, at this age you can live alone like an adult you know :)
You can drink, you can smoke, you can vote, you can do whatever an adult can do (i don't know if in you're country majority is at 21).
Alright, i think you should come in France a year, it's a good experience and it wouldn't be too long in a life to spend one or two year away from your country !
If you need something else, ask me :)
I don't know how much sense that will make to other people but my heads a bit all over the place about it so if you do understand please help lol
thanks xxI need advice about moving to France in my late teens?
As far as bands and concerts go you'd be surprised at who plays where in France, this site will tell you what's on and where, it's in French but not to hard too work out. http://www.viafrance.com/
As for shopping it really depends on where you'll be living. Most big towns and cities are pretty good for shopping, a lot of the clothes stores tend to be large and just outside of town.
If you're going to be living in the sticks, a small village or anywhere rural then it's going to be very, very quiet.I need advice about moving to France in my late teens?
Hey i'm french and i live in France ^^
I live in south of France, near Spain and Mediterann茅e :P
Bands come play there you know, and not only in Paris haha :D
Last time Snoop dog came, so ^^
In Nantes or Le mans, weather is not as good as Perpignan (where i live).
Nantes isn't in the middle of France, Nantes is in the north. Le mans i don't know.
Nantes is calm and people are very nice there, my exboyfriend live there now so he told me.
In France, 18 is the majority, at this age you can live alone like an adult you know :)
You can drink, you can smoke, you can vote, you can do whatever an adult can do (i don't know if in you're country majority is at 21).
Alright, i think you should come in France a year, it's a good experience and it wouldn't be too long in a life to spend one or two year away from your country !
If you need something else, ask me :)
TEENs: body modification , tattoos,piercings etc... i need some advice in here?
ok so for doing good in school and having high test scores i decided to reward myself with a tattoo ... my mom thinks that im crazy cause i got my 1st tattoo in April and now i want another one
ok so its between stars and wings
im in a GED prep classes i have 2 more levels before taking the test so though that if i will get one star one i will add one more every time i will pass to the next class to have it as an encouragement or something
and those stars would be on the outside of my left forearm
as for the wings those aren't the ones on the back i feel like its a bit too obvious and i want something different so i have this idea of the Hermes wings they will start on my ankles and i don't want em big maybe like 7 inches max. as of now i cannot get them cause:
1. i don't have enough money i have like 140$
2. i twisted my ankle last night and i have the right leg in a cast and i have to wait 8 week for it to come off
it sucks especially now since the weather is getting hotter
the tattoo that i have now is of a phoenix and its on my leg and foot i cannot get anything on my uppers arms/shoulder and upper back area as i have a skin condition that prevents me from getting tattooed there
the wings for me are kinda a symbol of independence and freedom as for the stars there isn't anything uber special about them i just like how they look
so stars or wings ??? im really buying the wing idea it seems a bit more original then the stars
and please if your gonna write something like ';don't get any cause what about when your 60 and wrinkly ';cause i have heard that many many times and we all be old and wrinkly one day so that doesnt bother me at allTEENs: body modification , tattoos,piercings etc... i need some advice in here?
I really like the star idea, I think its a really cool reward system type thing. I honestly really don't like the wing idea, I can't really imagine it so that might be why. But I'm sure what ever you get will look rad.
But you're not crazy, tattoos are addicting. I got my first one in march and now I have 4 and I'm only 16.
The final decision is up to you, pick the tattoo that you like the best and will enjoy having for the rest of you life.TEENs: body modification , tattoos,piercings etc... i need some advice in here?
haha i think both are pretty righteous but i think the wings sound really cool and more original/unique.
And honestly dude, go for the tattoo no matter what any one says. if you feel passionate about it then don't listen when people say you'll get wrinkly haha.
Many places require you to cover your tattoos. If you have to get one then put it some place that can be easily covered. All things being equal a tattoo can make the difference in a job application or college acceptance.
you know what, do it. dont worry about what other people think and do what you want. live your life and dont let anyone stop you from doing it. i think i like stars better though.
You are exactly right...the wings are way more original than stars. Get those.
listen to your mom don't do it besides I bet you could think of better things to spend money on and be just as happy
The star thing is a cute idea.
ur right
Since you're asking for opinions, I think *not* getting any kind of work done is more original nowadays. It seems kinda silly that you'd reward yourself with a 'gold star'.
Why not get something you can use for college?
Just for future reference, if you do decide to go with the tattoo, I've seen many many people passed up for different jobs and positions simply because the owner or manager didn't like the way their tattoos looked. The people involved were usually perfectly amiable, its just that first impression was the lasting one.
Well i would go for the stars bcuz i have some they are colored stars i have 11 of them and they symbolize me being independent and growing and leaving my mother's house.But i thnk u should go for the stars they are painful the ones i got but it was all worth it evendough my mother got mad and didnt speak to me for wks...
don't do it. there is no point it. people find tatoos unattractive in women. especially the arm! why do it. you think it's an award? will you get one after college? promotions? your wedding? for your baby(ies)? every good thing that you've worked for? it's pointless. sorry.
good luck and God bless!
ok so its between stars and wings
im in a GED prep classes i have 2 more levels before taking the test so though that if i will get one star one i will add one more every time i will pass to the next class to have it as an encouragement or something
and those stars would be on the outside of my left forearm
as for the wings those aren't the ones on the back i feel like its a bit too obvious and i want something different so i have this idea of the Hermes wings they will start on my ankles and i don't want em big maybe like 7 inches max. as of now i cannot get them cause:
1. i don't have enough money i have like 140$
2. i twisted my ankle last night and i have the right leg in a cast and i have to wait 8 week for it to come off
it sucks especially now since the weather is getting hotter
the tattoo that i have now is of a phoenix and its on my leg and foot i cannot get anything on my uppers arms/shoulder and upper back area as i have a skin condition that prevents me from getting tattooed there
the wings for me are kinda a symbol of independence and freedom as for the stars there isn't anything uber special about them i just like how they look
so stars or wings ??? im really buying the wing idea it seems a bit more original then the stars
and please if your gonna write something like ';don't get any cause what about when your 60 and wrinkly ';cause i have heard that many many times and we all be old and wrinkly one day so that doesnt bother me at allTEENs: body modification , tattoos,piercings etc... i need some advice in here?
I really like the star idea, I think its a really cool reward system type thing. I honestly really don't like the wing idea, I can't really imagine it so that might be why. But I'm sure what ever you get will look rad.
But you're not crazy, tattoos are addicting. I got my first one in march and now I have 4 and I'm only 16.
The final decision is up to you, pick the tattoo that you like the best and will enjoy having for the rest of you life.TEENs: body modification , tattoos,piercings etc... i need some advice in here?
haha i think both are pretty righteous but i think the wings sound really cool and more original/unique.
And honestly dude, go for the tattoo no matter what any one says. if you feel passionate about it then don't listen when people say you'll get wrinkly haha.
Many places require you to cover your tattoos. If you have to get one then put it some place that can be easily covered. All things being equal a tattoo can make the difference in a job application or college acceptance.
you know what, do it. dont worry about what other people think and do what you want. live your life and dont let anyone stop you from doing it. i think i like stars better though.
You are exactly right...the wings are way more original than stars. Get those.
listen to your mom don't do it besides I bet you could think of better things to spend money on and be just as happy
The star thing is a cute idea.
ur right
Since you're asking for opinions, I think *not* getting any kind of work done is more original nowadays. It seems kinda silly that you'd reward yourself with a 'gold star'.
Why not get something you can use for college?
Just for future reference, if you do decide to go with the tattoo, I've seen many many people passed up for different jobs and positions simply because the owner or manager didn't like the way their tattoos looked. The people involved were usually perfectly amiable, its just that first impression was the lasting one.
Well i would go for the stars bcuz i have some they are colored stars i have 11 of them and they symbolize me being independent and growing and leaving my mother's house.But i thnk u should go for the stars they are painful the ones i got but it was all worth it evendough my mother got mad and didnt speak to me for wks...
don't do it. there is no point it. people find tatoos unattractive in women. especially the arm! why do it. you think it's an award? will you get one after college? promotions? your wedding? for your baby(ies)? every good thing that you've worked for? it's pointless. sorry.
good luck and God bless!
Having a christmas party, and its for teens, most of us are 14, need some advice... please help?
okay so me and my best friend want 2 hav a x-mas party.
when we had a sleepover together a lil while back and we were talking abt if we were ever going to start playing games lik spin-the-bottle, real truth or dare (no backing down, no matter what, and with our friends it'll be interesting stuff), and lik 7 min in heaven at our parties.
well now we're having a party, do we play these games?Having a christmas party, and its for teens, most of us are 14, need some advice... please help?
Totally ,i'm 14 and i play those games all the time,i even had a water baloon fight at the park for my party,lame but fun!I think that's a great idea for a christmas party,i say go for it!!Having a christmas party, and its for teens, most of us are 14, need some advice... please help?
Yea.. Those games are fun...
Sure beats strip poker %26amp; Russian Roulette !
thats fun! cool!
Be proud that you haven't made out yet!! And you don't want to remember you first make out session resulted from a game!!
You want to wait and kiss a serious boyfriend...
I'm a very attractive 20 year old. I didnt even hold hands with a boy until the 9th grade... My first boyfriend we werr together for 1 year before I even tounge kissed him!!! SAVE IT HONEY. That's all you can give your true love, is your innocences. I know girls brag about kissing boys %26amp; stuff, but most of it is lies, just to look cool.
Wait until you are older. You wont regret it, and if you don't wait when you are much older from now %26amp; you meet your first true love (not puppy love) you will regret everyday that you didn't give it all to him!!
Play Twister. PG Truth or dare. Spin the bottle with pop kissing. Dancing is always fun!!! Have fun At your party!!
One of the easiest things you can do is to hire a DJ for your party. You'll want the DJ to know and bring along all of the latest popular songs. The DJ should have the skills to get the group dancing and participating in games. Kiddie games such as musical chairs or hot potato suddenly become fun again when they are played to current hit tunes. A limbo contest, conga line and even freeze dance will relax the group and keep the party from becoming too cool for fun.
Good Luck!
when we had a sleepover together a lil while back and we were talking abt if we were ever going to start playing games lik spin-the-bottle, real truth or dare (no backing down, no matter what, and with our friends it'll be interesting stuff), and lik 7 min in heaven at our parties.
well now we're having a party, do we play these games?Having a christmas party, and its for teens, most of us are 14, need some advice... please help?
Totally ,i'm 14 and i play those games all the time,i even had a water baloon fight at the park for my party,lame but fun!I think that's a great idea for a christmas party,i say go for it!!Having a christmas party, and its for teens, most of us are 14, need some advice... please help?
Yea.. Those games are fun...
Sure beats strip poker %26amp; Russian Roulette !
thats fun! cool!
Be proud that you haven't made out yet!! And you don't want to remember you first make out session resulted from a game!!
You want to wait and kiss a serious boyfriend...
I'm a very attractive 20 year old. I didnt even hold hands with a boy until the 9th grade... My first boyfriend we werr together for 1 year before I even tounge kissed him!!! SAVE IT HONEY. That's all you can give your true love, is your innocences. I know girls brag about kissing boys %26amp; stuff, but most of it is lies, just to look cool.
Wait until you are older. You wont regret it, and if you don't wait when you are much older from now %26amp; you meet your first true love (not puppy love) you will regret everyday that you didn't give it all to him!!
Play Twister. PG Truth or dare. Spin the bottle with pop kissing. Dancing is always fun!!! Have fun At your party!!
One of the easiest things you can do is to hire a DJ for your party. You'll want the DJ to know and bring along all of the latest popular songs. The DJ should have the skills to get the group dancing and participating in games. Kiddie games such as musical chairs or hot potato suddenly become fun again when they are played to current hit tunes. A limbo contest, conga line and even freeze dance will relax the group and keep the party from becoming too cool for fun.
Good Luck!
My mom is having her baby soon... Teens with siblings many years younger than them: advice please!?
Im 14 turning 15 in February. My mom is 33 I think. Anyway, she is having her 2nd child most likely the 1st week of December. We're naming the baby Lylian Elise. I chose the name
Im not sure how I feel about it. At times I am so excited and can't wait. Then i will be really grossed out and disgusted by it. I want to be totally accepting of my new baby sister and be a role model. Someone that she will look up to. But Im not sure how to stop being weirded and grossed out about the fact she is having a baby. I get to be in the delivery room by the way. So can any tell me their experience about having a sibling that his so much younger than them. And how they dealt with everything.My mom is having her baby soon... Teens with siblings many years younger than them: advice please!?
im 15 and my little brother just turned 3
yea its kinda weird at first but then you just get over it.
they are like little sponges and they absorb everything you do, they try to do the same things you do and stuff like that. Its really cool.
And I sometimes feel like his 2nd mom because i always take care of him so it's really cool. I think you'll enjoy it.My mom is having her baby soon... Teens with siblings many years younger than them: advice please!?
What exactly is weird and gross about having a baby? You came out the same way, you know.
A baby is a miracle--when you're ready for it, which I assume she is. She's letting you in the delivery room, that's a big vote of confidence to you.
Yes, you are going to be a huge role model, take it seriously. You're old enough to help your mom with this, make sure you do.
My little sister and I are 9 years apart and at the time I had no idea really what was going on when she was pregnant.
My little sister and I don't always get along but shes only 7 and Im 16. But I know that I will always be someone that she will always turn to. it will be hard getting used to it, but you are the more mature one.
im 15 almost 16 and i have a 3 year old brother. hes my half brother but when i came home from school one day and my mom and step dad got all the kids together and told us we all kinda freaked out becuase were older and now they r having another. i got through it and the day the baby comes you wont think about grossness anymore. there will br a bundle of joy and you will be more than ecstatic. trust me. youll get over it. (:
I have two younger sisters myself, I felt the same way when the last one was born, it gets better I promise, you'll love it :)
I know exactly what you feel. I am 13, and I have a almost 10 month old baby brother. I was originally the youngest, but I have one older sister. I was crying and was mad at my parents for having a baby. I thought it was a selfish stupid mistake (he was an accident) and that the whole family would have to suffer. I felt bad for the child, because my parents are nearly 50 (48 and 50) and I knew that my sister and I would be relied on a lot. I felt betrayed.
I chose not to be in the delivery room, because I thought it would not be good to see my mother that way, and I would be fine just seeing the baby after it was born.
I started getting more excited when we found out it was a boy, and was talking about names and such. My mom wasn't quite as...nice..as yours was, meaning that she did not let us pick most of it. We wanted a girl (and even though this could not be picked) it was a boy. We wanted to paint his room Robin's egg/Tiffany Blue with Brown decorations, but she chose this weird blue-green. We wanted to name him Liam (I wanted Liam Michael) but my mom wanted Reilly Finn, and named him Rylan Finn.
Now that he is born, i can't imagine my life without him. Yes, basically my whole life is my brother. I still hang out with friends and such, but I can't make noise between 9:30 and 11 AM, 2 and 3 PM and 6:30 to 7 PM, because he is napping. I watch him and play with him at least 20 minutes a day, and you don't realize how much care goes into a baby until you live with one (it's a great form of birth control!). They can never be left alone. If your mom wants to go somewhere and not take the baby, boom! You're babysitting. That's just the way it is.
Then there comes breastfeeding. If your mom breastfeeds, be prepared to see your mom's boobs a lot! You can't feed the baby by yourself for about 6 months, so your mom will be flashing everyone everytime the baby is hungry. It is kind of embarrassing in public, but you get used to it. It has to happen.
Good luck! It might be tough for a little, and I had no idea what to feel, but I love my brother with all my heart, and I know you will too!
I've just turned 15 and I have a little sister- adopted- who is five. Also, my dad and step mom have month old twins. My real mom and step dad also have three day old triplets. Trust me- HECTIC! But they're all so adorable I wouldn't give them up for the world. Also, between me and my older brother there's a 13yr gap. I guess my parents like taking their time.
Trust me, if you don't want to be grossed out, don't be in the delivery room. That's just something you really shouldn't see. I made that mistake with the twins and regretted the second my little brother started making an appearance. I had to leave immediately before I puked. Just wait outside and be excited! I know that when you're out there it will feel like an eternity before anything happens, but the second you're told you've got a little sister, and you see her, you'll fall in love.
The relationship with her will just come naturally. There will be times when you're not sleeping more than two hours a night and you just want to take her away, but as soon as she gets over that stage, it will be the most awesome thing in the world.
You probably will be her biggest role model. My five year old sister said I'm her biggest role model. Besides Dora the Explorer of course. Have fun!
Btw, the name you've chosen is really adorable.
I am 27 now but was 16 when my first brother was born. The idea of how my mom got pregnant grossed me out, it still does. It's a hard thing to go from only child to big sister no matter what the age, maybe even harder once you have been the only for so long. Babies take a lot of attention and time away from you so don't take it personally. On the up side my mom didn't have as much time to keep an eye on me since she was busy with my brother which was a relief. The good thing that came out of it was that I saw exactly how hard it was to be a parent so was careful not to become one until I was ready. Most of my friends had babies between 17-20yrs old because they just weren't aware enough to be careful.
Over all it was fun to have a baby brother. I got to play with him and he did look up to me, still does.
Well it's going to be hard on everyone, but especially with you. A lot of attention is going to go to the new baby and you just have to be happy for your family no matter what. Your little sister is going to look up to you so just always be there for her, its actually a wonderful thing. By the time she is in high school she look up to you and tell you everything so just take it easy and help your mom.
plus its cool you got to name her that's an instant bond with her already!
If you don't want to be grossed out, don't be in the delivery room. I was giving birth, and I was kind of grossed out.
I think when there are several years between siblings, it comes naturally for the older to look after the younger, instead of being ';a friend';.
There is only 5 year between my sister and I, but there is 13 years between a good friend of mine, and his little sister. He's kind of like a second father to her.
You and your sisters relationship will form naturally, over time, as you get to know one another. In the mean time, just be the best that you can be.
I'm 16, almost 17 and my mom just had twin boys 9 weeks ago, but i was completely thrilled by it, and i already had a son of my own lol, who was already 3/1/2 months old by the time she had the babies, so that's a different from ur situation. Plus i already had 4 older sibs and 2 younger sibs (by adoption), so addin 2 more babies to the mix wasn't all that bad, and right now they are both in the NICU still cuz they were born prematurley. As for u gettin over bein weirded and grossed out about the fact she is having a baby, i'm not sure how to help u their cuz to me that's not weird or gross, but maybe if u just keep tellin urself it'll be fun and excitin have a baby in the house that may work. Sorry if i'm not more help, but to me babies are the most precious things ever and i just can't imagine bein weired out ro grossed out by the fact that my mom was havin a baby, so yea, but that's just me. Lol ok yea not bein much help here huh, sorry about that.
I was 14 when my mom had my younger sister. I didn't feel grossed out but it did feel weird to have a sibling so much younger than me. But as soon as she was born I fell in love. I love that little girl like my own daughter and she loves me. It feels so good that she looks up to me, she's always saying things like I want to dress like you and not like mom. Don't worry I'm sure as soon as you see her you will love her too. When she's older you will still be young and you can help her fix her hair or teach her about boys.wrinkles
Im not sure how I feel about it. At times I am so excited and can't wait. Then i will be really grossed out and disgusted by it. I want to be totally accepting of my new baby sister and be a role model. Someone that she will look up to. But Im not sure how to stop being weirded and grossed out about the fact she is having a baby. I get to be in the delivery room by the way. So can any tell me their experience about having a sibling that his so much younger than them. And how they dealt with everything.My mom is having her baby soon... Teens with siblings many years younger than them: advice please!?
im 15 and my little brother just turned 3
yea its kinda weird at first but then you just get over it.
they are like little sponges and they absorb everything you do, they try to do the same things you do and stuff like that. Its really cool.
And I sometimes feel like his 2nd mom because i always take care of him so it's really cool. I think you'll enjoy it.My mom is having her baby soon... Teens with siblings many years younger than them: advice please!?
What exactly is weird and gross about having a baby? You came out the same way, you know.
A baby is a miracle--when you're ready for it, which I assume she is. She's letting you in the delivery room, that's a big vote of confidence to you.
Yes, you are going to be a huge role model, take it seriously. You're old enough to help your mom with this, make sure you do.
My little sister and I are 9 years apart and at the time I had no idea really what was going on when she was pregnant.
My little sister and I don't always get along but shes only 7 and Im 16. But I know that I will always be someone that she will always turn to. it will be hard getting used to it, but you are the more mature one.
im 15 almost 16 and i have a 3 year old brother. hes my half brother but when i came home from school one day and my mom and step dad got all the kids together and told us we all kinda freaked out becuase were older and now they r having another. i got through it and the day the baby comes you wont think about grossness anymore. there will br a bundle of joy and you will be more than ecstatic. trust me. youll get over it. (:
I have two younger sisters myself, I felt the same way when the last one was born, it gets better I promise, you'll love it :)
I know exactly what you feel. I am 13, and I have a almost 10 month old baby brother. I was originally the youngest, but I have one older sister. I was crying and was mad at my parents for having a baby. I thought it was a selfish stupid mistake (he was an accident) and that the whole family would have to suffer. I felt bad for the child, because my parents are nearly 50 (48 and 50) and I knew that my sister and I would be relied on a lot. I felt betrayed.
I chose not to be in the delivery room, because I thought it would not be good to see my mother that way, and I would be fine just seeing the baby after it was born.
I started getting more excited when we found out it was a boy, and was talking about names and such. My mom wasn't quite as...nice..as yours was, meaning that she did not let us pick most of it. We wanted a girl (and even though this could not be picked) it was a boy. We wanted to paint his room Robin's egg/Tiffany Blue with Brown decorations, but she chose this weird blue-green. We wanted to name him Liam (I wanted Liam Michael) but my mom wanted Reilly Finn, and named him Rylan Finn.
Now that he is born, i can't imagine my life without him. Yes, basically my whole life is my brother. I still hang out with friends and such, but I can't make noise between 9:30 and 11 AM, 2 and 3 PM and 6:30 to 7 PM, because he is napping. I watch him and play with him at least 20 minutes a day, and you don't realize how much care goes into a baby until you live with one (it's a great form of birth control!). They can never be left alone. If your mom wants to go somewhere and not take the baby, boom! You're babysitting. That's just the way it is.
Then there comes breastfeeding. If your mom breastfeeds, be prepared to see your mom's boobs a lot! You can't feed the baby by yourself for about 6 months, so your mom will be flashing everyone everytime the baby is hungry. It is kind of embarrassing in public, but you get used to it. It has to happen.
Good luck! It might be tough for a little, and I had no idea what to feel, but I love my brother with all my heart, and I know you will too!
I've just turned 15 and I have a little sister- adopted- who is five. Also, my dad and step mom have month old twins. My real mom and step dad also have three day old triplets. Trust me- HECTIC! But they're all so adorable I wouldn't give them up for the world. Also, between me and my older brother there's a 13yr gap. I guess my parents like taking their time.
Trust me, if you don't want to be grossed out, don't be in the delivery room. That's just something you really shouldn't see. I made that mistake with the twins and regretted the second my little brother started making an appearance. I had to leave immediately before I puked. Just wait outside and be excited! I know that when you're out there it will feel like an eternity before anything happens, but the second you're told you've got a little sister, and you see her, you'll fall in love.
The relationship with her will just come naturally. There will be times when you're not sleeping more than two hours a night and you just want to take her away, but as soon as she gets over that stage, it will be the most awesome thing in the world.
You probably will be her biggest role model. My five year old sister said I'm her biggest role model. Besides Dora the Explorer of course. Have fun!
Btw, the name you've chosen is really adorable.
I am 27 now but was 16 when my first brother was born. The idea of how my mom got pregnant grossed me out, it still does. It's a hard thing to go from only child to big sister no matter what the age, maybe even harder once you have been the only for so long. Babies take a lot of attention and time away from you so don't take it personally. On the up side my mom didn't have as much time to keep an eye on me since she was busy with my brother which was a relief. The good thing that came out of it was that I saw exactly how hard it was to be a parent so was careful not to become one until I was ready. Most of my friends had babies between 17-20yrs old because they just weren't aware enough to be careful.
Over all it was fun to have a baby brother. I got to play with him and he did look up to me, still does.
Well it's going to be hard on everyone, but especially with you. A lot of attention is going to go to the new baby and you just have to be happy for your family no matter what. Your little sister is going to look up to you so just always be there for her, its actually a wonderful thing. By the time she is in high school she look up to you and tell you everything so just take it easy and help your mom.
plus its cool you got to name her that's an instant bond with her already!
If you don't want to be grossed out, don't be in the delivery room. I was giving birth, and I was kind of grossed out.
I think when there are several years between siblings, it comes naturally for the older to look after the younger, instead of being ';a friend';.
There is only 5 year between my sister and I, but there is 13 years between a good friend of mine, and his little sister. He's kind of like a second father to her.
You and your sisters relationship will form naturally, over time, as you get to know one another. In the mean time, just be the best that you can be.
I'm 16, almost 17 and my mom just had twin boys 9 weeks ago, but i was completely thrilled by it, and i already had a son of my own lol, who was already 3/1/2 months old by the time she had the babies, so that's a different from ur situation. Plus i already had 4 older sibs and 2 younger sibs (by adoption), so addin 2 more babies to the mix wasn't all that bad, and right now they are both in the NICU still cuz they were born prematurley. As for u gettin over bein weirded and grossed out about the fact she is having a baby, i'm not sure how to help u their cuz to me that's not weird or gross, but maybe if u just keep tellin urself it'll be fun and excitin have a baby in the house that may work. Sorry if i'm not more help, but to me babies are the most precious things ever and i just can't imagine bein weired out ro grossed out by the fact that my mom was havin a baby, so yea, but that's just me. Lol ok yea not bein much help here huh, sorry about that.
I was 14 when my mom had my younger sister. I didn't feel grossed out but it did feel weird to have a sibling so much younger than me. But as soon as she was born I fell in love. I love that little girl like my own daughter and she loves me. It feels so good that she looks up to me, she's always saying things like I want to dress like you and not like mom. Don't worry I'm sure as soon as you see her you will love her too. When she's older you will still be young and you can help her fix her hair or teach her about boys.
BOY PROBLEM NEED TEEN ADVICE?
what should i do.i feel so lonley and really want a boyfriend.all the boys at my school are you nows.how do i get through this i am only 12.i want someone to lean on.BAD.i wish yall knew how many times i cried.!!help.BOY PROBLEM NEED TEEN ADVICE?
Oh you sound so sweet ....dont rush things you will find some one and it will happen when you least expect it ........lots of love Katie :-)BOY PROBLEM NEED TEEN ADVICE?
You are 12. You should be having fun with your girl friends. You are too young to be dating or even being with boys. If you start dating too soon, you will be bored with it in high school. It's just a matter of time before you give in to sex if you have been dating awhile. You should wait to date until you are 16. Have fun with your girl friends. These should be very happy times in your life when you can just have fun and no responsibility other than to go to school.
listen, boyfriends are teenage things. you are only 12. i'm not dating till high school! no, not because my parents say that, because i want to get good grades (more important than boyfriends!)
and:
girls are like apples on trees. most boys will pick the rotten apples on the bottom of the tree because they are easier to get. but, one day, some boy will climb to the top of the tree, and pick the ripest, reddest apple. that apple could be you, if you wait. and wait. be patient, wait till high school.
12? You have a long way to go chickie! lol
You need a boyfriend to feel important
I made that mistake when I was 12 too
I felt like me and my friends were drifting and if I got a boyfriend they'd come back to me but it didn't work out that way.
You don't want to know how many times I've cried because I've HAD a boyfriend because some guys you just can't trust and I'm only fifteen. lol
You have your friends to lean on and a guy will come up soon... don't worry
Anyone help with mine, please?
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Honey your 12
you've got your whole entire life in front of you
and you need someone to lean on now.... no
You just need to stop being needy... no offence
But you sound very insecure about your self
you dont need some one to make you happy
your 12 for god sakes
this is soposed to be the fun part of your life
stop growing up so fast!
you'll regret it someday
You are barely 12 years old, you shouldnt be worrying about relationships and stuff like that. If you need someone to lean on, thats what girlfriends are for, and guy friends as well. You shouldnt be crying either because you will find that special guy soon, and maybe now isn't the right moment. So have patience!!!
yur only 12...
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let me tell your something honey. when i was in middle school and i was twelve i wanted a boyfriend too. but you DON'T NEED ONE! you'll get one in high school.
Come on lass, your only 12!
You shouldnt feel like this at your age.
That sounds like me, but im 16.
why do girls cry over this. you are 12.
awwww babe ont feel lonely i shall your true mates wont pick on you cause u have a boyfriend wel your young and babe alwyas be confident with ur self say ur good looking that what men like
too young
ur only 12 u have plenty of time
Oh you sound so sweet ....dont rush things you will find some one and it will happen when you least expect it ........lots of love Katie :-)BOY PROBLEM NEED TEEN ADVICE?
You are 12. You should be having fun with your girl friends. You are too young to be dating or even being with boys. If you start dating too soon, you will be bored with it in high school. It's just a matter of time before you give in to sex if you have been dating awhile. You should wait to date until you are 16. Have fun with your girl friends. These should be very happy times in your life when you can just have fun and no responsibility other than to go to school.
listen, boyfriends are teenage things. you are only 12. i'm not dating till high school! no, not because my parents say that, because i want to get good grades (more important than boyfriends!)
and:
girls are like apples on trees. most boys will pick the rotten apples on the bottom of the tree because they are easier to get. but, one day, some boy will climb to the top of the tree, and pick the ripest, reddest apple. that apple could be you, if you wait. and wait. be patient, wait till high school.
12? You have a long way to go chickie! lol
You need a boyfriend to feel important
I made that mistake when I was 12 too
I felt like me and my friends were drifting and if I got a boyfriend they'd come back to me but it didn't work out that way.
You don't want to know how many times I've cried because I've HAD a boyfriend because some guys you just can't trust and I'm only fifteen. lol
You have your friends to lean on and a guy will come up soon... don't worry
Anyone help with mine, please?
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Honey your 12
you've got your whole entire life in front of you
and you need someone to lean on now.... no
You just need to stop being needy... no offence
But you sound very insecure about your self
you dont need some one to make you happy
your 12 for god sakes
this is soposed to be the fun part of your life
stop growing up so fast!
you'll regret it someday
You are barely 12 years old, you shouldnt be worrying about relationships and stuff like that. If you need someone to lean on, thats what girlfriends are for, and guy friends as well. You shouldnt be crying either because you will find that special guy soon, and maybe now isn't the right moment. So have patience!!!
yur only 12...
mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
let me tell your something honey. when i was in middle school and i was twelve i wanted a boyfriend too. but you DON'T NEED ONE! you'll get one in high school.
Come on lass, your only 12!
You shouldnt feel like this at your age.
That sounds like me, but im 16.
why do girls cry over this. you are 12.
awwww babe ont feel lonely i shall your true mates wont pick on you cause u have a boyfriend wel your young and babe alwyas be confident with ur self say ur good looking that what men like
too young
ur only 12 u have plenty of time
Any advice for a teen who wants to write a book?
when i get bored or have free time, i fantasize. well i have ben working and editing one of my fantasies and i think that it will make a great book and i want to make it a story.
do you have any tips
and do you think i should publish it? i dont care if anyone reads it or not, i just want to make it a storyAny advice for a teen who wants to write a book?
i am a teen and i really like to write alot too.
its very fun to do. and im glad u are getting into it.
but i must tell you it will be a very hard road if u want it to be big.
bcuz whether adults want to admit it or not, they dont take people seriously unless they are 25 and have a job.
but if u think it is a great story then yes you should publish it. im not sure but it might cost money but if its a great book then it will all be worth it.
Hope this helps u!Any advice for a teen who wants to write a book?
You should make a plan first. Figure out a nice plot, and writ it all down. Then go in and start writing. When you're all done, let some close friends (who are totally honest) read it. If they like it, try sending it to an editor.
don't be consumed by detail it's fun to write but nobody wants to know lol. and get others to read it people who will be totally honest with you.
luck x
Just start writing and let it take you by surprise. If you can post email your story to other people, then we can help ya out with the editing process.
Good luck. =]
Why not publish it? it's worth a shot. Have some friends read it, and see what they think.
give me the name ill read it.(lol once u wright it)
That's great! Just keep going on the track you're on. Someone once told me to dream big. Post your stories somewhere on online for people to read and soon maybe you'll become very well-known.
Write with your heart and yes, I do think you can publish it. I would definitely read it. =] Best of luck.
Don't publish it until you are older. I would advise you to start writing various books to get the hang of it, so eventually, every book will be better than the last and your English grammar will improve too.
Good Luck!
Can't wait to read them when you become a number 1 author! = )
yes publish it i would read it. i want to write a story too but i don't have time
I think you should publish it. Theres a girl who was 13 who wrote the book, ';Swordbird'; and it sold over one million copies the first week!
Shoot for the stars! i wrote my first novel (not published) but I'm SUPER proud of it!!
do you have any tips
and do you think i should publish it? i dont care if anyone reads it or not, i just want to make it a storyAny advice for a teen who wants to write a book?
i am a teen and i really like to write alot too.
its very fun to do. and im glad u are getting into it.
but i must tell you it will be a very hard road if u want it to be big.
bcuz whether adults want to admit it or not, they dont take people seriously unless they are 25 and have a job.
but if u think it is a great story then yes you should publish it. im not sure but it might cost money but if its a great book then it will all be worth it.
Hope this helps u!Any advice for a teen who wants to write a book?
You should make a plan first. Figure out a nice plot, and writ it all down. Then go in and start writing. When you're all done, let some close friends (who are totally honest) read it. If they like it, try sending it to an editor.
don't be consumed by detail it's fun to write but nobody wants to know lol. and get others to read it people who will be totally honest with you.
luck x
Just start writing and let it take you by surprise. If you can post email your story to other people, then we can help ya out with the editing process.
Good luck. =]
Why not publish it? it's worth a shot. Have some friends read it, and see what they think.
give me the name ill read it.(lol once u wright it)
That's great! Just keep going on the track you're on. Someone once told me to dream big. Post your stories somewhere on online for people to read and soon maybe you'll become very well-known.
Write with your heart and yes, I do think you can publish it. I would definitely read it. =] Best of luck.
Don't publish it until you are older. I would advise you to start writing various books to get the hang of it, so eventually, every book will be better than the last and your English grammar will improve too.
Good Luck!
Can't wait to read them when you become a number 1 author! = )
yes publish it i would read it. i want to write a story too but i don't have time
I think you should publish it. Theres a girl who was 13 who wrote the book, ';Swordbird'; and it sold over one million copies the first week!
Shoot for the stars! i wrote my first novel (not published) but I'm SUPER proud of it!!
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