Ever heard of the saying that love hurts. Its obvious that you are in love with her but it seems that she's been attracted to the 'bad boy' types that's why she has been having her heart broken and she believes that you would always be there for her so she plays around with the fact that when she's getting old to settle down, then she'll come running back to you (if she ever comes).
You have gotten your act together for the past couple of years but emotionally, you haven't grown and its best to do so. The reason why you haven't been able to connect to any girl is because you're still hanging onto this girl and are afraid to let go. You just have to give yourself a break from this girl for a long time in order for you to heal because it seems that she isn't into you anymore and only sees you as a handy friend. Don't force yourself on her and try occupying yourself so you won't have to think about her all the time. Hang out with your buddies and flirt with other girls, have a nice time and be friends with them at first and then, it would come naturally without you trying too hard to connect emotionally with another girl. The only way is for you to move on. Yes, it will be hard but time heals all wounds, no matter the time involved in the ''healing process''.Love advice from girls please (no teens)?
you should explain it to her the same way you explained it here you can tell her you have grown up and that you think the two of you could be really good together let her know that you really car for her and that you think you owe it to each other to at least give it a shot. and after that if she still says no tell her you may need a little distance so you can finally get over her. just tell it to her straight the worst she can do is say no and if she does then you will at least no where you stand
Its really good that u stick with her real long... my advise is go on ur own road.. dun force her into wat she dun really likes.. having good times with someone doesnt really mean she likes u.. as u go on, there are more and more girls u will meet.. so there no definite girl u have to like.. juz continue ur life.. build up the wealth.. and be sosially active as well.. at such age, u shud consider having a family already.. these days.. love isnt the base of marriage anymore.. money is.. so when u r rich later, she will come back to u.. and ur life goes on as wat u chooses then..
altho she had let u down.. juz be friends with her.. close frens and keep in touch.. so good luck..
Why wait...both of u want each other back...so just go ahead.
Best of luck!
I know you've heard the saying, ';If you love it, let it go, if it comes back, it was yours to begin with.'; This may be one of those times where you may have to move on. If following your heart keeps getting it stomped on, then is it still a good idea to keep going? This may be a situation where you guys met each other for a reason. You said when you met her, you weren't doing so well. Maybe meeting her and being with her was your gift to get yourself together, for yourself before anyone else. I think if she is not ready yet or she keeps turning you down, you should try to move on with your life. I don't want you to be depressed, that's not good for you. Not eating and sleeping is unhealthy and will make you sick. You can't wait on her because she may never come. Do you want to wait around for God knows how long for this girl that may never come? It sounds like you love her, but do you love yourself as much? Do you have as much confidence in yourself? Packing up and moving to where she is is fine and dandy, but what about you? What do you want? First we must concentrate on ourselves, loving ourselves and finding our happiness. Our own happiness is not in another person. Before loving someone else you must love yourself and by starving yourself and making yourself sick, that's not loving yourself. It takes one day at a time, I know it won't go away over night. But you have to be able to say that you are comfortable on your own first and from what it sounds like, you aren't. I'm not saying that it will never be with you two, but you've got some work to do before that time, she's already trying to do hers by going to school and getting her career together before anything else. Please don't be depressed. I used to be and it's because there was no love in me for me. You've got to find it, you can't let yourself deteriorate. Once you open your heart to you, a whole new world will open up. Doors you never thought will be available to you. And maybe even the girl of your dreams.
oh well...lets see...she says the only times she's eva happy is with u and yet she keeps turnin u down....sumfin wrong there....either she's scared to date u or she is jus wantin u there to be her comfort zone...confront her....talk to her bout how ur feelin..im sure thangs will be more clear if u jus talk to her...gurls like it when guys r jus straight forward...no beatin round the bush....good luck sug......
Move on its over
You are a lucky guy. Most people live their life NOT KNOWING what they truly want. You dont have a problem really, only solution. Now go do whatever you have to do and ignore people's advice. Be your own consult. It is your life anyway..
I think u should go out with her more often so tht she realizes tht with u she can be herself with no frills and pretence
To me it sounds like yous are really good friends.If she doesn't want to go out with you there is not much you can do about it.Keep dating but keep your friendship with her just in case she changes her mind. Good luck!
You should both concentrating on getting and keeping your lives on track. I think a fresh start for both of you, away from each other and the baggage from the past, would be best.
Follow your heart. It's not necessary that she'll get back to you, but hour heart and your emotional experience much more comes first, even if you think it's not.
Just move on, life is important and more inspiring when enjoying with a loved one but in your case, just find some one new. Time is precious and every single minute of it shall have a fruitful production. Good Luck, man!
I think she kinda loves you, and kinda wants to taste life. I think she is keeping her options open, which is very unfair of her. She is using you, keeping you just interested enough to keep you handy if she decides she wants to be with you. She is a very lucky girl to have you wait so long for her. Suggest you sit her down, tell her how you feel, and give her an ultimatum. Either you two must be together, no matter what sacrifices that entales, or you must both move on. Good luck, and I hope things work out for you. Remember, whichever way it does work out, it is meant to be that way!
wait till she comes back. ask her again and if she says no then tell her its her loss and date other people. she may or may not change her mind but by that point you may or may not want to be with her still. either way she will see how you changed when she comes back. if she doesn't want you its her loss and they maybe by then you will find someone you like better.
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