I need advice from parents or other teens?

When I was 3 I was sexually abused by my father. Shortly after that my mom remarried and the man she married legally adopted me as his daughter. Well, 14 years later my biological father's siblings contact me. I was talking to his sister for awhile but it was causing stress in the house so I cut off contact from her. Recently my bio-father's brother made a profile on myspace and wrote a blog directed to me telling me he was sorry for never contacting me and that he never forgot about me. I haven't talked to him yet but part of me wants to. He and his sister were not at all responsible for what my father did as they were kids when it happened.





Should I contact my biological uncle or not?I need advice from parents or other teens?
It sounds to me as if you have already made up your mind. I wouldn't suggest meeting up with him, but you've already said that you definitely aren't going to do that right?





It's your life, and your decision, though I feel that you should talk to you mom about it. It might cause her stress short-term, but she has a right to know. She's protected you for all these years, don't you owe her a little honesty?I need advice from parents or other teens?
First of all, I would like to say sorry for you having to deal with such an awful thing! I am glad that you have another, more positive father figure to grow up with.





If you feel that you would like to contact your uncle and aunt, I would say go for it, they are after all family. However, when this happens and because they are related to your bio dad, details about him may surface or he too, may try contacting you.
I do feel for you I was sexually assulted here when I was 16 and it wasn't my Dad now! Don't get the wrong idead here!But you need to amke amends here he's trying so you need to meet him half way.He's reaching out to you so go work this out! So you don't have to live with night mares like I got!
It depends. Is this uncle going to bring back bad memories and cause stress in your life like his sister's presence did? You seem to be doing fine without your father's siblings. If you contact him, do it because you want to, not because you feel you should.
You should be able to know your family if you want to. They should not be punished for what your father did to you. They have probably worried and wondered your whole life. You were in their lives and then you were gone. I would do what makes you happy.
You should.


I mean its not like its your father.


But go for it, Clear things up, i would.


Sorry to hear about what happened to you though.
it is up to you if you want to make contact. The joy of Myspace and Facebook makes this possible. It would be nice to know more of your family but it is up to you and how you feel
if you want to then YES. they are your family.





I love being close with my family ALL OF THEM so its great to have them in your life, why not?
noway maybe its a trick to sexually abuse you and if he really cared about you he could have tried harder to contact you
I think u should give them a chance.It's not their fault that ur bio father did what he did.
im guessing your 17?





i had never came into contact with my father till i was 17 (still 17 now) and he didnt want me to meet me, i came across him in a pub and it was a total shock. He was horrible to me and it was a bad experience. But i'm glad i now know what he is like, so its worth contacting your bio-uncle and to see what he has to say seen as he doesn't really have anything to do with it. And its better having another persons thoughts/views on the matter of your bio father.





but be very wary, and try not to get your hopes up about things, they can be thrown back in your face unfortunatly.





i hope you make the right decision in the end, and it gets sorted :)
First off, if you are under 17, it is not a good idea to meet anyone, even someone who says they are your uncle off myspace. Other than that, if this is your uncle and you are sure of it, then there should be no reason that you should not try and make contact with him. As you have stated, he had nothing to do with what your father did and it is your decision what you do with your life and who the people are that you spend your time with. You never know what you could be missing out on because of that side of your family you have never gotten to know. Start things off slow and if eventually, you want to see each other in person, do it. But make sure you have someone you know and trust go with you when you meet them for the first time. Hope this helps.