Could you please give me an advice or suggestion of how to get alone or trat my husbans kids (teens) ?

so that everything could be better and work out in a jice way and not to be fighting all the time?pls ..thank you for your help .Could you please give me an advice or suggestion of how to get alone or trat my husbans kids (teens) ?
just do one nice thing for them each day. for example, if you're a good cook, maybe cook them some cookies.


just think of what a nice adult was like to you when u were a teen.Could you please give me an advice or suggestion of how to get alone or trat my husbans kids (teens) ?
i would say just dont try too hard bc that will push them off when they try to talk to you jus act like you care and talk when they wanna talk until you build a good rapport
JUST SIT DOWN WITH THEM AND TALK IT OUT. OR GIVE THEM AN ULTIMATUM IF IT DOESN'T IMPROVE. DON'T BE STUPID. YOU DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH FIGHTING WITH HIS KIDS TO GET THINGS DONE. YOU'LL HAVE TO COME TO SOME KIND OF UNDRSTANDING WITH THEM TO MAKE THINGS IMPROVE AND THAT TAKES A LOT OF EFFORT ON YOU AND HIS SIDE.
Tell your husband to get a grip on his kids. They shouldn't be arguing with adults.





Also, they are teenagers, so don't fret....all teens attempt argue with everyone in authority. When they grow up they will get out of it.





For now, it's just your husband's job to set the rules and both of your jobs to enforce them.





try re-reading your answers..by the look of them I have to think you were the teen and not the parent writing them.
Dealing with kids from a previous marriage or relationship is quite tricky. Specially when they happen to be teenagers.





Have you talked with your husband about it? So you know what he'll think about it. Teens tend to be rebellious (remember when you were their age?), and have a mind of their own. Respect their views and privacy, but insert your right to be respected. Ask why, find out their opinion - listening and being sensitive to their feelings is just a step. Don't take sides (specially if you have your own kids too from a previous relationship).





Show them that you do care, not just of their welfare, but as a person too. Teenagers are adults in the making, remember - and this is a phase in their life where they're encountering the harsh realities of life.





Good luck!
try to be cool and don't be dorky
maybe your hubby could have a talk with his kids!
do it the mexican cool way hit the kids and show the man whos boss haha
I remarried in 2003, making us a stepfamily. I already have 3 children, and he has 3 children (they were teens at the time). The first few years were hard I have to say, because one--they thought I was trying to be their mom, and two--I thought there was favoritism going on and there wasn't. There was just an age difference and different ages are treated differently. We are close as ever now, and I never regret it. Stick in there. It does get better. I read a lot and if you do, too, research on the internet about stepfamilies and how to improve your relationship with these teens. I know and understand that this is a difficult age...but give it time.





Please check out the following website..it is full of helpful links to other websites about stepfamilies. God bless!
What? what's trat and jice? If you want the kids to stop fighting then been nice to them. I'm not really sure what the question is.
well im a teen and have an older sister thats just turned 18 and i suggest that you dont try to impress them talk to them casually and not try to all of a suddon come on to them and sont be controlling. Well to give you the truth I dont know how to control a teen i mean im a teen well just them your clueless because the more i c people confess to me and try to c eye to eye with me and not just try to be the parent the more i respond
Try and find some things that you are both interested in and something you can all talk about, so they can start to relate to you! maybe spend sometime with them, just you and them and get to know them!
I am the daughter of a father in a new relationship so I can tell you right from the horses mouth how to get along with children that aren't your own eg. from a previous relationship.


the key is not to try too hard, don't try to be a mother to them as they will be very protective of their birth mother.


Try to be a friend, someone they can talk to.


Sit down when you are alone with them and just talk over a cup of coffee or something.


Tell them where you stand in their lives and let them know you are not trying to be their new parent.


Tell them how much you love their father and let them know you will love them too.


It's hard when there is a new woman in the house and it's especially hard for teens to get used to their parents not being together so you just need patience and a bit of understanding of what they may have gone through when their parents seperated (if this is what happened).


If i can offer you any further advice email me. dana.8272@yahoo.com.au