Parental Advice on Teen Dating?

I have a son who is finishing his freshman year in high school. He met a girl several weeks ago at a concert and they want to be together. The girl invited my son to her house over the weekend. I told my son that even though there was going to be adult supervision at her house, it is unhealthy and immoral for him to be at a girls house. My son is extremely upset and angry with me. Do you think I made the correct decision?Parental Advice on Teen Dating?
He will get over it. Teen dating is useless *most of the time* because; from my experience - it never lasts/works out and someone always ends up heart broken. You made the correct decision. He may not fess up to it - and she may not either, but we ALL know what they were planning!Parental Advice on Teen Dating?
I think that you need to let go a bit personally. I know its hard for all parents to do that, and know when it is the right time to do so, but I do not believe it is 'unhealthy' or 'immoral' for a freshman to be at a girls house. Her parents are going to be there anyway.


If you do not let go, he will just start lying to you and going behind you back because he knows that you will be angry if he tells you the truth that you dont want to hear.


You need to be slightly more liberal (not so much so that he goes off the rails) but enought to make him realise that he can talk to you about girls and stuff without you flying off the handles. He is so much more likely to talk to you and be open with you if you make yourself approachable and less strict. Hope this helps, just my personal opinion.


Good luck! X
in my eyes, i think you made the wrong decision.


was he just invited over, or invited to stay over?


if it was invited over, then i think what you did was wrong, he was only visiting the girls house and parents would be there. it is not unhealthy and its certainly not immoral; girls and boys are meant to be friends and intereact with each other.


if its stay over, i understand where you are going from as they only met several weeks ago, however there is supervision.
i personally wouldn't let my son, i think you made the right decision. the best thing you can do is educate him about sex because sooner or later they will go behind your back and do it anyways.





most of the ones here that said you made a wrong decision are teens themselves so obviously they won't agree. also i never said don't let him go at all i just simply meant i wouldn't allow him to spent the weekend. and its not unhealthy its just inappropriate simple like that.
How old is he.


I'm 16 and I'm in a relationship. We started dating just under a year ago, currently my boyfriend is living with me and my parents, we are very happy together.


I would advise you let him have this relationship, if he doesn't like it it's his loss, if he does and your stopping him.... well you get the picture.


We only grow up with experiance - greenhouse plants aren't as strong as plants that have survived the elements.


p.s. prehaps you should sit down with your son and tell him your veiw and ask for his. That way you'll both know what's going on.
No, I don't think you did. Now he'll do it behind your back instead.





How is it unhealthy? Do you such little faith in him and in your own parenting that you just assume he is immediately going to jump into bed with her? Haven't you instilled correct morals in him at this point?





Who don't you give him a chance to be responsible and mature?





Why could you not have the girl over at your house instead?
I would not say immoral or unhealthy just to be at the girls house. It would not be appropriate for him to stay overnight unless it was an organized and chaperoned party. I would not assume that they are going to get naked and have wild monkey sex., at least not if her parents are paying attention.
I dont believe in parents interferring ( as long as they are taught about contraception at school, and that you would be pis*ed off if they had a kid whe nthey were too young i.e 14/15) is a good thing . just let them get on with life, and make there own way with girls/guys... Its kinda of sad he cant be at a girls house, this sounds to me american, us brits are very much laid back, let them go and have fun
it's got to happen at some point, if he does this now you will find out just how responsible he is. all boys want to go to their girl friends houses and most boys don't push a girl into something so it should be ok as long as he promises not to do any thing neither of them are ready for.
Let him have his experience, if he doesn't like it, then he`ll never do it again. But if he does, let him and he`ll learn the pros/cons in a relationship or anything similar.
You made the wrong decision. He's in highschool, don't stop him dating. You said youself there'll be adults there, so just let him go. Trust him.
Hes in high school now you should just let him date. If you dont he will probley just date and hide it from you. You should trust him to make smart decisions.
Depends on the personallity of the boy and the girl
i think you should let him go cause he is getting old enough
It's your son. You know him and what he is like, we don't. Do you think you make the right choice?
You definitely made the right decision. It is your responsibility to guide your child. You don't know what the girl's parents views on morality are, so you cannot trust that nothing untoward would happen. His anger will be short lived. A baby or STD however, is for life.