today he asked me if i smoked though and i thought he meant ciggerettes (which i dont but i said ive only tried it) then hes like ';haha thats not what i meant.';
i like him alot but i dont want to feel stupid for not doing drugs.
and now i actually want to do that kinda stuff because i dont want to feel stupid.
but yeahh. anywayss. its weird cuz im only a freshman and all these older guys are liking me but they dont realize that im not as experienced as them.
any advice?Teen advice?? help...?
That's the whole ideal your not as experienced as them and they know it.Don't kiss your dreams good bye giving in to there life that's not living.Don't get hooked in to that thinking he will want you more if you do drugs with him and his friends.Smoking dope to fit in with him and his friends just because you like this guy is not the answer.Your feeling for him maybe strong but his feeling for you are not there.I'm thinking you have not been touched by a boy so lets keep it that way.First he will want you to try drugs then sex then more.Give up on him don't let him drag you down to his way of life.He will only use you then dump you for another girl.Be cool and stay in school and in joy your life it gets better.Going his way because you like him his going to hurt you in the end.Good luck and have a great life stay cool and just say no thanking I want to in joy life,that's not living.Teen advice?? help...?
smoking weed will make you stupid though, so if you don't want to feel stupid i suggest that you get interested in another guy because that sort of guy will probably never amount to any thing, and don't think he will change for you either.
first off.. u shouldnt do drugs.. there not fun.
you feeel like crap after it..
you shouldnt change for no guy anyway!
lose him..forget him anyway.
his not worth it.
because.. think about it.
in the future?.. u guys hook up.. then u both will be druggies.
and boom! no future..ur a crackhead.
plus ur only like what.. 13 or 14?
im fourteen and a sophomore.. and yes
i even went out with a college guy..[which is illegal]
but i didnt change for him.. he wanted me too..
so i ditched his sorry butt.. found someone better.
u shouldnt do drugs..its not even worth it.
girl, ur crazy to be getting caught up in things like that.
lose the kid, find someone ur own age, and the same level as you.
Hes probbably talkin about that lame joke where u say no and he says that ur pretty hott to him. but if he does smoke stay away from him! guys who smoke are NO GOOD! trust me i know some and they were my friends but they arent now because they started doing drugs. my advice would be to find somone else, he may be good looking but if he smokes i wouldnt trust him.
You shouldn't have to do any kind of drugs, or even drink, or more importantly have sex to prove to somebody that you are cool. Because all this will be doing is showing them that you are weak, and unsescure. If he cared anything about you, he wouldn't even want you to do any of that stuff. Trust me, I've had way beyound my share of ';partying';; and its the worst mistake I ever made. Besides, smoking pot is illegal. Not only that but you are too young to even think about those kinds of things. But you're in high-school, and wanting to be liked and respected by all of the guys and I realize this. But you have to realize whats ahead of you. You're fixing to travel down a road that nothing good ever happens on. Thank about what I just said, I hope this helps.........
It's a difficult one but just remember that it is okay and often a good thing not to be as experienced as them. Take your time and do what you feel is right rather then what you feel will amke you fit in better, it often won't.
If there are things in particular you want to know more about so you can make it seem as if you are more knowledgeable on it-do some simple research.
As much as you feel stupid there is no need too. And it sounds like the pressure of others doing it is making you feel like doing it which is a normal, but not a good thing when it comes to drugs so be careful and trust yourself. If taking drugs is the difference between having friends and not it is worth not having friends.
Hey, it's called peer pressure (of course you know, you will have heard it a zillion times like me) and you want to but it's crap...
It turns from one high,
To more than just one,
'Till it's all you can think about and you're up at 7 a.m. at your dealer's house, banging at their door...
If you think he will like you because you're high then he totally has his values wrong.
The best thing you can do is try not to associate with them. It's like if you have been given a big chocolate cake, and you don't have anyone to share it with right then. You know that you won't be able to hold off not eating a LOT of it for long. So you pour salt all over it and then it's ruined.
Don't even take a slice.
Because that slice will most likely never be your last.
Don't do drugs. NEVER do drugs. You will regret it.
Most drugs will require you to increase your doses for the same high.
Rehab is a horrible experience. You don't go into detox easily. It's like having a tun of bricks put on your head.
Addictive substances change the way your craving process works, and switches in the new drug for craving.
Get yourself away from the 'friends' and guys who will suck you into it. Get involved in clubs, sports, study extra hard. Anything.
Pour salt on the chocolate cake and know you saved yourself years of pain.
If what you're asking is, ';should I smoke weed to impress an older guy?'; the answer is no. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm guessing that he asked because if you said yes, you two could smoke together, and that if you're the kind of girl who takes risks by smoking weed, you might be the kind of girl who doesn't put up much of a resistance when it comes to hooking up, and if you're both high it will be easier. These things are all true.
However, there's nothing wrong with hooking up with someone you like (as long as you're safe about and comfortable with it) and, as far as I'm concerned, there's nothing wrong with smoking weed. However, keep in mind that you are a freshman, and there's nothing wrong with pacing yourself. You have a long time in high school, college, and beyond to experiment. Starting slow means you're less likely to crash and burn later. Hanging out with older kids can be awesome, but take your time.
Oh, and remember: despite what DARE programs might tell you, if you don't want to to do a drug, no one will twist your arm about it. If you DO decide to hang out with these guys, and you don't want to smoke weed, it's really easy to just say, ';oh, no, I can't.'; I've never met a pot smoker who would argue for too long, especially with a girl.
Good luck!
forget them
Don't do it just to be cool. That is the stupidest reason to do ANYTHING.
He's too old for you, and obviously too immature. he only thinks he's mature cause he thinks he's all that and a bag of chips, but he's wrong. Just wait till after High school and watch kids like that end up as bums on the streets with no job and a pregnant girlfriend.
Don't change for him! Or anyone, for that matter.
If he can't accept your choices, is he really worth your time?
';i dont want to feel stupid for not doing drugs';- wth? You should be proud of the fact that you don't do drugs. Most drugs are dangerous, and are a very stupid thing to do.
In reference to the older guys liking you, I think they realise that you're not as experienced as them, because you're younger, and not at that age. They wouldn't like you if it mattered, anyway.
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